Advice for being a supportive man for low wifes libidos in long term marriage
So just looking for some advice to spice my marriage up a bit.
For some Context im Australian M39 and my wife if F33. We have been together 7 years.
The first 4 years where incredible in everyway. I have always payed for most things and she always worked part time. As we bought a house, things got more expensive so finances put pressure on me over the last 3 years. I also had a younger brother pass away from suicide which sent me into a depression loop, this then shut me down alot and unfortunetly i didnt see i was bringing her down too. Im accountable i became a work a holic and my communication was next to nothing (typical guy) I was needing more help from her but wasnt good at communicating, our sex life went down the drain and i have a high drive, so did she,but we lost our selfs. Last year i discovered her sending photos of her self to a couple other guys and flirting. Ive never cheated never even thought about another woman. She met one through a online game whiteout survival. I had no idea how common this all is, almost fighteningly normal. Its so easy to just get your needs met by someone else in down times. I blame my self though i wasnt the same man she loved and i take full accountability for that. She never physically did anything but it still hurts the same nether the less. We split for 6 months lived apart and she came back to fight for the marriage again half way through last year. I got therapy and really found my spark again.
She took accountability in what she did and works a hell of alot more, reassures me and contributes alot more. The issue is a dead bedroom, we got back together it was incredible for a month and then she just lost her libido again. I thought with a simple mind,shes just done it to get back with me. When i dig deeper she promised alot to change her behaviour and help me out and i think she well over promised. I guess Its too much for her and its her working a stressfull job now 5 days a week she is a vet nurse it is taxing but shes incredible at it.
I think given all this she does not have the energy and urges she used to. I communicate my emotions regularly. I cook every night (i always have )i normally get up at 430am and home by 3 so its a way i can help. Obviously we share chores and she contibutes 260 a week. Which doesnt sound alot but it is for her wage and she still has to pay for her own fuel and other personal expences.
I guess my question is do i relieve her working so much in a hope maybe shell have more energy for me. I just dont want to be cheated on if she gets bored and obviously this is more fimancial pressure on me.
Is there any supplements i can help her out with. Ive tried other methods of just affection with out pushing for sex too as i know women need emotional connection.
We talk about it and she said i dont know how to fix it that she finds me attractive and a great man that she loves more than she ever did, she is just is so tired all the time now. Maybe over time shell adjust ? What is womans opinions? has you libido come back in after a while from a new job or adjusting to change in your life.
TLDR summary
Getting together with my wife and helping her with her libidoThe right way. She betrayed my trust and cheated through texts / pics and an emotional affair with a guy overseas (not physical still hurt the same ) so we both are working on our selfs to be better. Shes working alot trying to change some of her behavious And contribute which is incredible but is now exaughsted as shes not used to it. If i relieve her of working as much ill be under more stress and maybe shes manipulating me. She says it may help her libido though. Her job is a vet nurse she deals with alot of sad situations i like to give benefit of the doubt.