I think my husband is addicted to sex
I think my husband is addicted to sex and it’s been showing up as an issue the past five years or so as our lives have gotten more busy. A few reasons why I think this:
-he is always touching me in a sexual way and rarely in simply gentle or loving ways. It’s always grabbing my body suggestively or whispering things in my ear. I’ve told him many times can today just be a gentle loving day. He says I’m sorry I can’t help it you just look so good or if I didn’t you’d worry I don’t want you.
-he wants to have sex basically every night. If we don’t have sex I can tell he is jerking off in the middle of the night in bed next to me, sometimes I think it’s even in his sleep.
-he used to try to have sex with me even when I’m sleeping or wake me in the middle of the night. I’d complain about how it affects my sleep but he’d still do it. He hasn’t the last week because I finally was very harsh and said it feels almost like I’m being raped because I go to bed with a firm no but then he’s trying to finger me or something else while im asleep. I’m sorry if me saying that was offensive to true raps victims, but I snapped because in that moment it felt like that’s what he was doing. He says he doesn’t realize he is doing it, so maybe he’s doing a lot of that in his sleep? Hence the sex addiction?
-he often pouts if we don’t have sex. If I say no he will turn over and act like he’s this horrible person.
Is this a sex addiction? What can I do to help him? What can I do to fix this? It has made me hate sex!
TLDR
I love my husband very much but I think he’s addicted to sex and it has caused me to hate sex, a very important part of our marriage. I need help learning not to dread bedtime and how to help my Husband not be addicted to sex.