Advice On Communicating my needs
Hello everyone, I'm new to the community. I was recently diagnosed ADHD and ASD. I'm 34, happily married, and father of 3 kiddos.
I was hoping to get some advice from sympathetic perspectives, or someone that's already been through this. I have struggled with chronic burnout all of my life. It's impacted me negatively for years without really having a face to a name. Now that I'm more self aware post diagnosis I'm really struggling to identify feelings and make sense of them. My wife is having a hard time supporting me when I'm just so terribly indecisive and actively contradict myself. I feel peace and solitude in a place where I can be completely alone will somehow make the world quieter. The thought of actively taking time away from my family to do so makes me feel incredibly selfish and guilty. I feel bad that I feel bad.
Have any of you found the balance? Living up to expectations while also protecting yourself from debilitating burnout? A way to indulge in the things that make you whole or better suited to "fit back in" to what society thinks we should be capable of? I'm just so afraid of screwing it up.
Thank you all in advance.