Me and one of my closest friends were talking recently, and honestly it messed with our heads a bit.
We both have been pretty serious about relationships. Loyal, devoted, emotionally invested the kind of guys people say women want. But both of us got cheated on and betrayed badly.
Meanwhile, there’s this guy we know who was a complete playboy for years, treated relationships casually, and now he’s marrying a genuinely amazing girl who seems way too good for him. And weirdly, it makes you question everything.
My friend works in merchant navy, I’m a software engineer we’re both doing well professionally, family-oriented, stable lives etc. But whenever marriage gets brought up at home now, both of us genuinely feel fear instead of excitement.
It’s not even “hate” toward women. It’s more like trust feels broken after what we experienced. You start wondering whether loyalty and sincerity even matter anymore.like we are not that bad either but these scar’s have made us so much insecure. Honestly I don’t want to suffer again sometimes i do think it would be better if j was playboy kind rather than being all this serious.
Like i would rather prefer to be single my whole life rather than being devoted to a cheater again but initially everyone act so good and pious.
Have other men here felt this? How do you rebuild trust after betrayal without becoming emotionally closed off?