I feel hope new therapist
Hey yall so I’ve been diagnosed for 9 years (married and my husband came to take care of me thru psychosis and we’ve been together ever since ) but when your finally in a safe relationship all the trauma and deep seeded childhood wounds just come out and come out crazy !
We’ve had alot of ups and downs in our relationship sometimes because of his flaws mainly because of my illness and the reality of my episodes and how they affect us as a couple
But we found this new couples Therapist who specializes in my diagnosis: schizophrenia bipolar borderline adhd anxiety and depression
And I seriously feel hope she immediately pointed out that I’m anxious attachment and he’s avoidant attachment and the last Therapist we had gave us 0 advice just let us talk not what we needed. So I’m finally feeling like we’re going to get somewhere with this one !
It just feels amazing to be seen and heard and told from both of us this is the most important part that both of us feel seen and heard. Cuz when I’m in an episode all I want is closeness and reassurance but I have a lot of trauma so I sometimes have huge reactions to things that don’t warrant that response. But with this illness sometimes you don’t know how to communicate and get your needs met in a healthy way. And my husband immediately wants space and to descalate which triggers my abandonment issues really bad to the point of being suicidal. So we have a lot to work on but I feel hope that things can and will get better.
I know my illness is hard on me because i literally cant cure it and can only manage my symptoms but i know
Its also hard being the partner to someone who has this illness and he only has adhd and no childhood trauma so more neurotypical then I am and I know its so hard for someone to understand us from the outside looking in.
There is hope there is light at the end of the tunnel. If anyone has advice about how you navigate this as a couple I’d love to hear too.