AITA for not telling my husband the night before that I was going to work from home the next day?
I work a job that is hybrid but not on a specific schedule. I work from home when I have nothing that needs to be handled on site that day or if I am not feeling well. Between those two reasons, I usually work from home once per week and it’s never a set day and sometimes I don’t know I will be working from home until the actual day.
If I know I plan to work from home, I let him know I plan to do so the night before. He is still sleeping when I start work, so when I decide to work from home the morning of, I can’t tell him until after he wakes up.
This morning I woke up and was not feeling well. I was well enough to work but working from home was much more comfortable to do. The work I needed to do on site could be pushed until tomorrow so I decided to WFH. yesterday I talked about what I needed to do this upcoming week because I will be busy and most of it was on site so I did say yesterday I planned to work on site all week. But alas, my body did not agree with that.
He woke up and saw I was working from home. He told me it is disorienting and a little rude to say I’m going into work the next day and then end up working from home. He says it throws off what he had planned for the day.
I think I am not the asshole because I try not to make a habit of WFH without notice but he thinks it’s asshole behavior because he has plans and me being home throws everything off. So AITA for randomly working from home without giving my husband any notice?
ETA: I should’ve specified, but he wanted to do chores at home and errands out of the house. He isn’t cheating and if he wanted to goon, that’s fine by me. Nothing nefarious is going on here.
I get how the other person being home when they weren’t expected to can throw you off. I experience that when he trades a shift last minute or gets home very early without warning. We might be neurodivergent and never got diagnosed lol. But when he does it, it changes my plans but I think “good for him”. I don’t think it’s rude or asshole behavior. That’s why I posted this.