u/Inevitable_Dream3r

Hey, I am new to this, but I wanted to give outside support a try. I have been in a marriage for over 20 years. I was much younger when we met. For a while, I've been feeling we are just in different places. I feel there is no real support from my spouse. When I share how I feel there isn't much change. I think the biggest part is the disrespect in front of the kids. The yelling, cursing, and emotional anger as if I am dealing with a toddler. I feel that I have been patient, giving my spouse time to change certain behaviors. I don't think that is going to happen. Every time I speak on divorce, the response is either "I run when it's tough" as if I should be okay with the disrespect, or it's. he doesn't want to leave his kids. My thought process is how is disfunction a better choice. I am so over this marriage and want out. I know the emotional toll it will have on my youngest, but I also know the negative impact it will have on him when he gets older. I am so unhappy but try my best to remain upbeat and positive. Just wondering when did anyone just say forget it, it's time to go. Did you try counseling first or what was your ahaa moment? I think I have truly had mines.