I (29F) have been friends with her (29F) since 1st grade. It was always that classic extrovert-adopts-introvert dynamic. I trusted her completely.
Over the years, I told her everything..my insecurities, crushes, personal stuff. Only to later find out from other people that nothing I said ever stayed with her. She would casually pass it around like it meant nothing.
What hurt more was how she treated me in public. She has this pattern of subtly putting me down in social situations. Once, a mutual friend asked me what I was doing, and I said I was pursuing my PG. Before I could even finish, she jumped in and mocked me—saying I’m always at home, doing it “from home,” making it sound like I’m doing nothing with my life.
And every time I try to call her out, it somehow turns into me comforting her. She guilt trips me, talks about how her day was already bad, or brings up emotional things like നിന്റെ name ആര്ന്നു പണ്ട് എന്റെ password sortta things. And I end up apologizing.
There’s also this guy our mutual friend from school days whom I’ve liked for years. She knew everything about that. And still, she told him things I shared with her in confidence. That was humiliating.
They were childhood best friends. And one day she casually told me that they had even considered being in a relationship but decided not to. She chose to reveal this to me only after all these years. And that was completely a new information to me. I even asked if it didn’t work because of me, and she said no but honestly, it just made me feel like I was always the outsider in something I thought I was part of.
He’s always been hot and cold with me. Comes close when I’m pulling away, disappears when I get attached. And if i try to move on he will sent me a message and all. This was happening in a loop. She knew about me liking him even in my 20s.
I stayed in this friendship for too long and endured enough. I want to cut off this friendship, but am not able to do it cus whenever i try she make me a bad person.