Hi everyone. It sucks fo be posting here. I posted in other threads but I figured this would be the best place, as I don’t have anyone to talk to about this right now. So, if you’ve already seen it im sorry and also sorry that it’s a long one.
Basically my boyfriend (now husband) have been together since 2013 when we were 14 and 15. We ended up being teen parents and had our son in 2016. My husband has always struggled with addiction and it was his first lie to me. Eventually it couldn’t be hidden it got so bad. He went to rehab in 2017 and did 30 days. He relapsed pretty quick upon leaving and was really bad off. Due to this, he did not see our baby much nor did his family because his mother was a heavy user as well. We still continued to see eachother as I loved him and was young and dumb. We were intimate still and I had never really been around drugs before.
Finally in 2018, he had enough and wanted to see his son, & went to a rehab in Delray beach, FL. (we’re from the jax area) inpatient for 30 days. He got to call me almost daily and sounded great and was excited to come home. He got home October 2018 and looked great. I was excited for the future and we hung out a lot. At this point we are 19 and 20. I noticed him adding a lot of people on Facebook and Snapchat. It was his friends from rehab for support, etc.
About two weeks later I just knew. Some of the people he added on snap were female. I’d facetime him when I got in bed and it just rang. I’d call him and it would ring. I had a feeling and I believe I even said something and he brushed it off cause he “would never ew”
From my memory his facebook password changed as I had his login. So i logged into his snapchat. There was an unopened snap from from of the rehab girls he met there (call her S). It was a photo of her talking dirty about them cuddling naked. It all clicked. She was attractive, apparently many guys raved over her. he proceeded to tell me on his last day his room she better him to get her number bc he had said he had an attractive girlfriend at home and they didn’t believe him and he got her number.
This is where the story starts basically. She gets home a week later. Now going oN FB logs he started liking her pics oct 22, a week after he got home. I was so angry I wish I didn’t but texted immediately and he wanted me to come over and talk. Of course everything was deleted. He admitted they facetimed twice and texted a bit and she showed her body. I was devastated. He cried and apologized. I stay with him. get revenge, the whole thing
Here’s the thing, he decided to open up about it A FEW WEEKS AGO. this is was emotional online affair. nightly intimate facetime, texting daily, her getting mad if he didn’t respond, she knew about me but didn’t seem threatened which hurts. I caught them mid Nov so about a month. He texted her “fuck off” and blocked her on every thing. He told me he shafted “back peddling” because the guilt was so bad and when he was dry she would flip out. she wanted to down here to florida and live with him. We were still hanging out weekly and being intimate.
It’s all I think about. I dig for info all night, FB data logs and I requested Apple ID from the time to be recovered. it seems like he regrets telling me as I ask so many questions. I’m devastated. To him it was a while ago but i’m heartbroken. I deserved to know the truth then. I have no one to talk to. She passed away June 2019. Apparently after he blocked her in November she would text him off of text now monthly? wtf! I’m at a loss. Now it’s been 8 years and i feel insane asking these questions but I feel I want closure. I messaged S best friend who was so sweet. she told me S told her they had sex in rehab then continued to talk. i’m at a loss thanks for reading.