u/Inevitable_Pack_7230

I (36F, teacher in higher education) am thinking of becoming an SMBC and am probably going to start inseminating by the end of 2026, I am currently on the waiting list for a hospital donor and am looking for one in my own network now, I would prefer this route.

I have recently had the offer to write a proposal for a year (within work time) for a scholarship for teachers for a parttime PhD in 5 years. There is a topic I would very much like to do a PhD on, it makes me happy this prospect and it would be good for my career. On the one hand it would give me freedom and flexibility, on the other hand it would give me maybe a lot of pressure and stress. Any experiences?

I (36F) just broke up with my girlfriend (43F) because she has doubts about having kids and I want to, for some time now. She has had doubts for over 2 years of our relationship, we have been together for 4. We were going to a psychologist, she told us we could try that I would already look for a donor while we stay together so my partner could explore how she feels. I just told her that for me I would try this if I know she thinks there is a at least an ok possibilty that she would change her mind. She told me honestly she doesn’t think so within a short period of time and that she hopes we can stay together if I have a child and do it on my own. Which at first I considered but I realized it would make me very sad and it would be difficult and I would be lonely and keep on hoping. So I told her. And we ended it. I am at home now, we live right across each other. Please tell me I did the right thing and I should not go back. It came quite suddenly, I don’t know I feel overwhelmed and guilty.