I'm confused about my own experience
CW: Minors are involved in this story, I don't think I can add a second tag for it, but I'm trying not to be explicit. I don't know how to use Reddit.
So recently (and by recently I mean this year) I realized that I was groomed when I was 12 till I was 14 by a guy who was 3 years older than me (he was 15 when he met me). We met online and became boyfriends thanks to peer pressure because at the time I didn't know I was aromantic.
I do admit that I lied about my age at first, but he figured out a month later and we kept dating. Anyway, now with the context clear...
He coerced me into sexting and roleplaying sexual activity with him, speaked sexual about me and what he wanted to do to me when we met irl (that didn't happen). This happened a lot in our relationship of 2 years, I was uncomfortable and honestly I do not remember almost anything of the experience itself, it's real fuzzy. After we broke up, he stalked me for months and tried to manipulate me into trying to go back with him. Between this, he would tell me that he would fly to my country the moment he turned 18 and would make me never leave and be his, and take me to his country. I think this was a rape threat, but I don't remember the text correctly and the chats are long gone.
He also leaked our sexual roleplay and sexting to the male friends I had at the time (irl friends too) after we broke up, they ended up reading it.
I'm 21 now, and I don't know how to categorize what happened. It feels like sexual assault to me but I don't know if it actually was? Would it be more like sexual abuse? Harassment? Because every site tells me something different and some even make me feel dumb for even considering it.