I (27F) live in an apartmant with my brother (24M) and he doesn't do 50/50 on chores that needs to be done. How to motivate him?
The main problem is that he's quite messy. I have lived with other people since I moved out from my parents' (about 8 years ago), so I naturally learned to adapt to keep the common places clean and nice for the others to use. He has not, and I think that's exactly the root of this problem.
I've already made a cleaning schedule to keep track of who did what and when, and I write down what needs to be cleaned so we can divide the chores between us equally. Yet when it's his turn to sweep the floor or clean the stove, it takes him several days of constant reminders to do it, even though it only takes about 3-6 minutes to do these.
I'd like him to take these things a bit more seriously, but on the other hand, I don't want to nag him about it that often; he'll just get sick of it that way very quickly.
I think a massive part of his attitude towards house chores can also be partially blamed on how my parents raised us. My mum did most of the chores, and she got me to do them with her. Which would not be a problem ofc, but my brothers did not have to do a quarter of what I was expected to do. Where we grew up it was natural that women did most of the chores and served men while working full-time. I do not want to continue this unfair and awful mindset, so any advice on how to make it more equal?