AITAH for being upset my sister is telling people she’s pregnant immediately before my wedding
I am getting married in 3 weeks and my sister (my only sibling) is my MOH. She told me about 6 weeks ago that she was pregnant with her first child and had been trying for a baby for the previous 2 months - I was a bit surprised as wasn’t even aware she wanted kids but was thrilled for her as this will also be the first baby in both families.
As she would be leaving for my wedding at 12 weeks pregnant, she initially told me they were only going to tell family ahead of my wedding - and tbh this was surprising as historically she has been someone that always needed to be the centre of attention and often tried to upstage me throughout our lives - and I was very touched of how considerate she was being.
She really has checked out of anything wedding related since becoming pregnant, no longer asks anything related to the wedding to the point I don’t mention it anymore either and we mainly talk about pregnancy, scans etc. I had even asked her if on the wedding day she could gather both families for the photos (as the only person who knows everyone) and she said no she can’t do that and be walking around finding people now she’s pregnant and id need to find someone else.
She then told me that her and her partner were going to tell their friends about their news 3 weeks ahead of my wedding when she is 10 weeks pregnant - she could see I was surprised and said they had decided they didn’t want to wait any longer. We live in a very small community where news like this travels fast so by telling people so close she is aware of the possibility this could become common knowledge now. She then also said she was thinking about calling up our extended family (some that she has only met on two occasions and others that she hasn’t seen in 15 years and isn’t close to) to “warn” them that she is pregnant ahead of the wedding. Some of these people are flying to our country for the first time for the wedding and I thought it was a bizarre suggestion when she said she wants to be considerate letting my wedding be about my partner and I, to suggest it. She’s then also made comments like I will need to sort out non alcohol drinks for her to hide that she’s not drinking - and I feel like in the immediate run up to my wedding which I’ve been so excited for she’s now making it focus on her and her pregnancy. When I told her I was disappointed she was going to tell people immediately before the wedding she said “I bet you’re hoping something goes wrong with the pregnancy” which was incredibly hurtful.
I’m so excited for her that she’s pregnant and feel awful for being upset. It’s not even so much the idea that the news will “get out” or detract from the day - it’s more the feeling that I’m disappointed as feel if the tables were turned I would have waited two weeks to let my sister have her day.