I have a huge dilemma going on in my life rn.
I have two guys to pick from and I am very much confused.
Guy 1- Earns the same amount as me, lives away from parents for now( idk about future) isn't rich, doesn't have ancestral wealth, has no siblings, I have heard his mother is a bit bitchy, is taller than me, I haven't talked to him.
Guy2- Is unemployed right now, has an elder brother who doesn't stay at home, lives far in city and just got married(also has a house where he works), this guy has a house here in Village but it's his father's and another is his brother's. Has ancestral wealth but not in his name since it's a joint family. Mother is nice here. Is equal to my height. Have talked to him for three months now. They have two houses in village but only one bedroom in each and that makes me question, bedroom for his mum and dad in older house, bedroom for his brother and SIL in new house, if we get married, where's ours? Will we always be sidelined and given importance when his brother isn't here?
The thing that's bothering me is jealousy, I have this thought that the elder brother and wife will be given more importance over us in his family because both of them work and between us, he doesn't work, only I do. What if I am not given the same respect and also since he is elder, family will listen to him more. What if it is like that?
I have given my word to guy 2 but since past two days things have started to shift inside me, something is just not sitting right. This doubt is creeping in and it's killing me from in.
What should I do?
What signs can I look for?
How do I decide which one is better and safer for me?