Realizing I was the placeholder
I was with my boyfriend for a year. We both have multiple children and different work schedules so we were navigating those challenges. It was frustrating at times but we were both committed, or so I thought. I was looking for a house closer to him to make song each other easier (we live about an hour apart). He was clear that he wanted to build a future with me and my kids (I’m a solo parent). Our kids had met and hung out. In March I had a series of difficult things happen back to back (my house flooded, my child ended up in the hospital, fixing the house was taking forever) and his father also had a stroke in the same time period. We didn’t see each other for a few weeks. He told me he wanted to support me. We were finally planning a weekday date, weekend day and an all day together. I texted him the morning we were supposed to go to dinner (we texted and talked daily), he replied once and I never heard from him again. That was mid April.
Yes he’s fine. I texted, called. Nothing. I decided to search social media (we were never connected on any platform because I’m not huge into it) and the first thing that comes up is a post from another woman. Less that a month after we were taking about plans, he was with her.
I’ve been a placeholder before, this didn’t feel that way while I was in it. I was his first relationship after divorce. But the specific future talk and plans just has me thrown. If he would’ve just told me he was done, things were too hard, whatever reason, I’d have accepted it. But to just ghost after a year.
Has anyone else experienced this? I really don’t understand relationships today!