AITA; gave mother $80 for Mother’s Day
I gave my mother $80 got Mother’s Day. I did not tell my wife because I already knew how much of an issue it would be. I never give her money and I knew she would appreciate that since she is retired and does not get much from social security. I also gave my wife $1,000 for Mothers Day, a card with pictures of her and our son, and bought her a custom sweater with an image of her and our son. I tried my best with the amount of time that I had to make sure she had a good day. Well fast forward to today, she woke me up (I work night shift) so I only slept 2 hours and began berating me how she went through my phone and saw that I gave my mom $80. That it got her really mad and kept going at me stating I didn’t even give her money. I reminded her that I sent her money but she kept insisting I didn’t. I sent her a screenshot of the money transfer with the message “Happy Mother’s Day my love”. She then began saying well I didn’t give my mom any money, I never told her she couldn’t and then she said she would. I bought her mom her Mother’s Day gift. She then began stating that her mom takes care of her our son once a week and we don’t give her anything. I didn’t tell her we shouldn’t because she should get compensated for her time. I also told her that my mom comes and helps clean and takes care of our son. She then proceeded to tell me that she doesn’t want me to bring my mom ever again and that it’s my responsibility to figure things out. She then stated she will not do anything for me and she will take money out of my bank account. I work full time, go to school full time and try my best to spend time with son and give her attention while trying to do maintenance at home. I am exhausted mentally and physically and she does not understand that. I try explaining that to her and she tells me that no one told me to go back to school and that she has our son the majority of the time and hardly sleeps so I should not complain.