I F/20 am starting to doubt my boyfriends M/20 thinking process and forgetfulness when it comes to us. What can I do to help him?
My boyfriend M/20 and I F/20 have been together for a year and a half. Both of us haven't had a good example of a serious relationship and we are both learning as we go. We have our little arguments here and there like everyone does but nothing too far. Lately it's been a lot of communication issues. I bring up something that has hurt me, he acknowledges it and forgets about it two days later. I'll be waiting for a reply to something for 6 hours while he plays a game with his friends, not working, not sleeping, he just doesn't think to pick up his phone. His new job is nightshift so he's working while I sleep, I'm working while he wakes up and gets ready. We have two nights to speak or hangout but he has repeatedly chosen to play with friends when he could do so any day of the week. He'll apologize then do it again a couple days later because he forgot. He is diagnosed with ADHD but doesn't take anything for it anymore. I'll ask to speak to him later about something important. I get home at the same time every night yet I have to wait for him to finish up what he's doing whether that's for 20 minutes or 45. We will be talking and say he will call or text me after he's done but hours go by and he will say he forgot to. I keep mentioning these problems over and over and it doesn't change. I know that he feels bad because he can't remember. I want to help him remember issues we have and let us fix them together instead of them showing up later. I know I have things to work on as well. I'm not the easiest person, I do try to work with him though. I'm just a little tired and overwhelmed. Any advice on how to help us work through this remembrance issue?