My ex emotionally cheated on me and now blames me for it because I used to block him sometimes
I 23 F was in an LDR with my ex 26M and honestly I feel so emotionally drained now.
He emotionally cheated on me, talked to other girls, crossed boundaries, and when I confronted him, instead of taking accountability he literally said things like:
"You made me feel like talking to other girls."
and
"You’re responsible for it because you blocked me."
Yes, sometimes I blocked him during fights because the relationship had already become mentally exhausting and toxic. But how does that justify cheating or seeking emotional attention elsewhere?
Even after the breakup, he keeps contacting me. He sends me pictures/videos of himself hanging out, eating out, chilling with office friends, etc. He even admitted once that he was trying to make me jealous intentionally.
The thing that hurts the most is that when I was asking for basic emotional effort and quality time in the relationship, he acted like I was “too much.” But now he has all the time and energy in the world for everyone else.
I genuinely loved him and tolerated a lot because I thought relationships go through rough phases. But now I just feel manipulated and blamed for reactions that came after months of hurt.
Has anyone else dealt with a partner who blamed you for their cheating or emotional betrayal? How do you stop feeling guilty when they constantly twist the narrative?
**TL;DR; : was he toxic?**.