u/InfamousHunt1467

WIBTA if I (26F) move away without annnouncing my self to my BD (36 M)....it has been 7 long years of HELL and two kids ...ill try to mak long story short ...I met my BD in our job when I moved to mexico (raised in chicago ) I was alone in the city for the first time at 19 after being raised in a stric christian household up until then anyway alone in the city needless to say i went a little crazy, at my job i met a guy 10 years older than me who was alone (all his family lives in texas he was deported for DUI) ANYWAY he was sweet at first always telling me his story now i know he left some parts out and he basically wanted pitty i felt for him so i started helping him financially after a month to "share" rent we moved in together and that was THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE!!! things turned toxic on and off id go to my parents and come back they warned me about him but i was younf and already clinged to him in a way i could never explain ...when he put his hands on me for the first time I made up my mind to get away and went to live with a friend from work she warned me not to go back but i did not feel comfortable at her home as she had a family of her own and tbh it was too far from civilization : / so stupidly enough I moved back and got pregnant (I ACCEPT I MADE A LOTTT OF MISTAKES FROM THIS POINT ON BUT THIS MAN CONTROLLED ME IN A WAY I STILL WOULDNT BE ABLE TO EXPLAIN) He was nice through my pregnancy until i moved from the city back to my town with my parents he became a raging alchiloic /drug user he started physically abusing me watching adult content infront of me and i left him ...when my baby was born i allowed him to see him he had apparently "changed" and I allowed him in our life again (Mind you i grew up in a loving hime where my dad was a yes dear type of person never put his hands on any of us in the home just the sweets man to us so i was not aware of any red flags which i now see i was living in a carnaval with all these damn red flags) my parents moved back to chicago and i stayed here in mexico with my "little family" and i could write a book with all the things this man did to me, 1. Physical 2.Mental and 3.psychological abuse at this point and until now i have been financially responsible like 90% of our relationship cause he cant seem to keep a job anyway i happened to get pregnant one more time(while i was on birth control) so I felt stuck to him just for me to receive help with my kids since it is his responsability but at the end it seemed like i had three children with him including as he never really helped with much financially (pesos aint no joke ...not emough) anyway fastfoward a couple more years of abuse and he put himself in a religious rehab (christian) and he left alone all drugs and alcohol so he did change alot not 100% but he did and of course he was around cause he always found his way back in ....it has now been two more years and life definitely aint what it used to we go to church and he reads the bible a lot and is overall steady but someone im still dealing with financial responsibility and house hold chores while he plays videogames all day ...its frustrating anr although he is more loving and " nicer" now and sober i feel like i want to keep dealing with this for the rest of my life im just emotionally tired and and i feel bad cause my kids love him but i dont wanna feel stuck to someone that made my life hell for years....and im in the process of getting my forever home and i dont know if i want him to be part of it so again WIBTA if i moved away without letting him know the new address 😬