He says he likes me, acts like he does… but refuses to move forward. Am I just stuck in limbo?
I honestly don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if I’m slowly walking into something that’s going nowhere.
There’s this guy I’ve known for years. We’ve never actually been together, but there’s always been this weird push-and-pull between us. For a long time it was me wanting more and him not being on the same page… and now it feels like the roles have kind of flipped, but the outcome is still the same: nothing clearly defined.
We’ve recently reconnected properly and started talking every day. Despite living a couple of hours apart, we see each other regularly and it’s been consistent for months now.
When we’re together, it feels honestly great. He’s affectionate, thoughtful, present — like someone who is clearly enjoying me and choosing to spend time with me.
But here’s the issue: he got out of a long-term relationship not that long ago, and he’s very clear that while he likes me and likes what we have, he “can’t give more than this right now”.
And I don’t know what to do with that.
Because part of me feels like I should take it for what it is and enjoy it without expectations… but another part of me feels like I’m slowly getting emotionally attached to someone who is already telling me there’s a ceiling here.
I’m starting to feel anxious about it, even though nothing “bad” is happening on the surface.
So I guess my question is:
Am I in a normal slow-burn situation… or am I just emotionally investing in someone who is keeping me in a comfortable in-between?
What would you do if you were me?