can you be pro-black and date a white person?
hi. i came across a video on tiktok of two black men debating interracial dating. one of the men in the video is in a relationship with a white woman, and the other man is arguing that by not being with a black woman he was undermining the success of the black community. he says that since the black community does not benefit from his relationship with with a white woman and that her ancestors were his oppressors he should instead be dating a black woman.
this made me immediately confused because i don't think you can really control who you fall in love with. you should be with someone who makes you happy, and if a white woman makes him happy i don't see the issue?? i also thought it was kinda weird about how he was making a big deal about sticking to your own race because it does not benefit your community because i thought integration was the goal?? that people of two racial backgrounds are able to be in the same room and view each other with mutual respect.
the comments are very divided, a lot of people agreed with the guy against the interracial relationship because they are against dating someone whose ancestors might have oppressed your people. other comments question why he even cares in the first place who he is dating. and the comments i agree with are saying love is love, you should be with who makes you happy. but is that really anti-black for a black person to be with a white person??? im so confused. im white so i ig i dont know shit but i just thought the goal in a relationship is to love each other???