Hey y’all I’m here just looking for some comforting words, reassurance we did the right thing, and how I move forward.
Me and my girlfriend met and started dating 3 years ago in college. She got into med school near my hometown, so we were able to make that transition smoothly.
Since then though we both started having lots of questions about long term compatibility. We had tough talks, and worked through all of them in a very mature way, which I thought was so special. But lingering feelings had us not feeling great.
All of this to say, we just had a week to ourselves for space to think about what we want and who we are. And I decided that I choose to love her, and want to at least try and make it work.
She said that our tough conversations made her realize she doesn’t really know who she is, what’s important to her. She just knows that she just started med school, and she’s not happy right now as we are, and she said she feels like it’s the right thing to do to breakup so she can find out who she is. And it’s not fair to keep us in the relationship if she can’t put her heart into it.
I just went to get my things, we had a heart to heart, and we both wished each other so much happiness and love. The thing is I know she’s telling the truth about her reasoning, she was crying and was so so upset, but hey she might even be right and I need this too.
It just sucks that we both love each other, and had very special times and memories, and I’m losing my partner in life. I wish her all the best, and I’m afraid I’ll fall into a mindset of maybe in the future when she finds herself and I don’t think that’s healthy.
Anyone who’s been through this type of breakup too, I would love to hear from you. I guess I just need some reassurance this was the right thing for us.