my [24f] bf [28m] keeps going through my stuff when there is nothing there, is he projecting?
We have been together for almost 5 years and the issue is whenever I go out, wherever it may be, my bf tends to go through my ipad or if i’m sleeping possibly my phone. I was especially upset one night and changed my ipad password to see if he’d notice. We had an argument one night and apologized for going through all of my messages etc and that was that, I forgave him. Tonight, fourth of july I came home in hopes of winding down cuddling watching tv he asked why i changed my pw. I couldn’t really give a coherent answer bc I was drunk. He then went to lay on the couch and ignore me. I asked why he was laying out here and why he can do it but when I do he tells me i’m either immature, ridiculous, dramatic, sensitive, or all of the above. I just went to eat smth to try and sober up and calm down.
Anyways, what I worry about is if he’s projecting? I know people online aren’t always right but hearing so many people say that that behavior could mean he is doing something he shouldn’t and is going through my stuff in fear I may be doing it as well, I can’t help but worry. I don’t go through his phone or pc because I feel no reason to so I just feel hurt over this bc I just feel he views me so negatively. I also have nothing to hide but it still feels like an invasion of my privacy. Nothing related to infidelity but sometimes there’s just text threads I prefer he doesn’t read between either me and my friends or me and my family.
TLDR; My bf keeps snooping through my ipad and phone messages and I worry he may be projecting his own behaviors/actions onto me