u/Ingl0ry

Three years into the Enneagram and I'm only just getting to grips with the world that is 7; the micro-world that is SX7; the alternative or complementary world that is 7w8; ditto SO-blind 7. (All working hypotheses, btw: I wouldn't be shocked beyond belief if I woke up one day and realised I was an 8, after all.)

Let's say there are 27 subtypes - not a particularly controversial idea. Let's say each subtype has two lines, which they can use in both healthy and unhealthy ways. Isn't that a staggering amount of learning time just to understand the basics? And that's before wings, stackings, age, gender and culture muddy the waters.

I hear people on here merrily talking about their friend who's a 925 and their mother, a 741 etc. Allowing for the fact that this is all guesswork anyway, WTF?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

Not MBTI - there are enough of those posts to last us a decade. I mean more obscure things like Berne's games (part of the Parent-Adult-Child model, described in The Games People Play*) - or even Shakespearian characters (Naranjo wrote an essay on this, apparently, where all the subtypes are represented. Itching to get my hands on it).

I'd particularly like your insights if you work in a special field where the Enneagram has helped you (and vice versa if you like!). Or basically anything that hasn't come up before.

*This is a great book, but desperately needs an update - if anyone knows of something more modern along the same lines.

There was a talk from a neurologist yesterday that was really good. Otherwise the content hasn’t really been earth-shattering for me. But hey, it’s free, and I have a lot of wood to sand.

Any thoughts? Recommendations? Unless you buy the VIP ticket you only have 30 hours to listen, so it’s good to be listening to the right things!

I went back to digital dating after many years and quickly found my type was younger men. But I was surprised to note it was, specifically, younger 7 men.

When I realised a guy I’d arranged to meet was nearly 20 years my junior, I nearly cancelled. But we hit it off amazingly, and several weeks later our lives are unmeshed both creatively and emotionally. He’s an incredibly mature, self-reflective 7.

We’ll need a manager at some point because we can’t shut up and it’s like living in an ADHD pastiche. But otherwise it’s great. I think he leans 6 while I lean 8, and that could be a factor. But it’s mostly because we’re both expansive thinkers who like to do shit and actually generally achieve that (albeit with delays).

What about you? I’d love to hear your type-on-type stories.