Feeling sad because my two Gen Z daughters won't wish me a "happy mothers day" this year, nor have they for over 5 years. I thought I got past it. But it still hurts.
When my oldest daughter (now F29) graduated from CalArts, expensive Art College which we paid for, no loans for her, she treated me (and us, husband) like strangers. Rude, didn't introduce us to faculty, had a pool party at her apt and we were not invited. Her HUGE photographs were displayed prominently in the LOBBY of the main building, she is talented.
So she comes back to our smallish apt in NYC and proceeds to treat me like crap. Staying out till 3 or 4 am. ignoring me. etc,
When I tried to talk to her about this behavior, said I was abusive. I suggested therapy, and she said she had "boundaries" refused to go to therapy.
I was going through menopause during this, drinking too much and a bit wild, but TBH do not understand how that would affect the kids to this extent.
So, I became the abusive parent, because, I don't know ,I sent mean/worried text messages when she stayed out all night in NYC? I called her spoiled?
I mean, my mother was totally self-involved, but I never cut her off.
What should I do now?