Help, I caused drama in my sisters friendship group and our mother inserted herself
CONTEXT: My younger sister was kinda quiet growing up but later in high school ended up best friends with one of the “most popular girls” from our area. We are no longer in high school but still live with our parents over the summer. I feel this girl can sometimes be conceited and act like she is better than my sister, but what can you do.
Ok, so this really all started two days ago, as me and my sister, well call Jen, don’t go to uni with the best friend, we’ll call Gina, so I haven’t seen her in a while. My sister had a birthday brunch and invited two friends, one being Gina, the other being a girl we’ll call Ava, who I am actually pretty close with as she goes to our uni. Ava is from our hometown and was also kinda a quiet girl in high school.
I agreed to DD for them so they could get sloshed at brunch (as one must). However, I noticed that Gina talked for most of the time, always about herself, and I grew kinda annoyed and it quickly reminded me why I used to avoid hanging around her. If someone else would say something she would either find a way to make some kinda mean joke to laugh at them or interrupt to one up. I also noticed my sister and Ava both kinda making those snarky undermining remarks to each other. This behavior was also being directed towards me, where if I said anything it would be twisted and I would be laughed at. It was the kind of dynamic where no one is saying anything straight up mean to each other, just kinda of competitive and snarky. Like nothing you can call out, just enough to get under my skin. I decided to go mute and just ride out the meal. I recognize, however, that A: they were drunk, and B: overall they were pleasant and Jen has a good time.
The next day, I mentioned something to my mom about my thoughts, which was in hindsight a mistake as we are both over protective. I mentioned an exchange from the brunch where Gina used one slang word in particular while rolling her eyes while Jen spoke, and it means something not nice. My mom got all upset and said she would talk to my sister about it, and I assured her it was really nothing and I would talk to her. So I talked to Jen about it, and I specifically mentioned two things: 1. Gina lowkey thinks she’s above you and Ava and 2. The dynamic when Gina is around makes you and Ava kinda mean to each other. Jen denied all of it and assured me it’s all in my head and I only thought that due to personal opinions of Gina.
Anyway, last night my sister, Ava and Gina all got together again, and I stayed away since I didn’t enjoy the brunch and went to bed. SHIT HIT THE FAN. Apparently my mother got blackout drunk (sloshed runs in the family) and just sat in the room where the girls were hanging out. When Gina mentioned that particular slang word, my mother asked her what it meant. She Gina explained, my mother drunkly and cryptically said some nonsense that basically meant why are you calling my daughter this word? Anyway, super awkward, made all the girls uncomfortable and Jen had to physically pull her upstairs.
So today, my mother confesses to me what happened. This is what I texted Jen as soon as I heard and before I spoke to her in person:
“My bad I take 100% blame I mentioned it but didn’t think she would get drunk and like actually make a big deal of it—Like I’m sorry your right totally not my place I made a mistake sorry”
So anyway, apparently her friends where super confused and Gina especially was upset and assumed that my sister felt some kind of way about her and had expressed it to our mother and asked if she did anything to offend her, which my sister insisted she didn’t. She explained to them everything I said and stated that my mother just blew everything out of portion. They apparently all had a long deep talk about their dynamic and all agreed that they were happy and had no resentment towards other and just had a dry sense of humor that I didn’t they (YIKES KILL ME NOW).
Now, I know I can’t be upset with my sister because like what was she supposed to say and everything she said was true, but what am I supposed to do!?
I am actually close with Ava and Gina is in our house nearly every day. This isn’t an AITAH because I know I am, I caused all of this by inserting myself and causing drama but what should I do ???
Do I just proceed like normal? Do I say something? Do I just avoid them forever?
Also, I still do kinda feel the way I feel? Like even if my sister is okay with it, I guess maybe I just wouldn’t be if my friends were like that?? Idk idk idk
TLDR: I decided my sisters friends weren’t nice to her and my mom confronted them over it at a sleep over, so my sister told them everything I said about them. What do I do now??