u/InitialFar6436

My trans wife(35 MtF) came out to me (33 cis F) as trans just about a year ago. We have been together for 11 years in total and it hasn't been that easy. They have cheated, left me and the children, and we even tried being open once before and it didn't end well (all of this was before they came out). They have just recently been bringing up opening our relationship again even though we had a bad experience before. They have stated that the hormones have made them feel differently and want different things like being with men or trans women. I understand that this is new and things change especially when you factor in hormones, but one thing they said makes me question our relationship all together. They said that vagina isn't something they want or feel comfortable with, along with penetration of someone who is the opposite sex. They let me know I was an exception but with pushing so hard to have an open relationship I really don't feel that is the truth. I'm not sure what I want to get out of posting this, but I am stuck in my own head and unsure about what to do or how to move forward.