Shifting
I'm currently 6 months into moving from romantic to friendship with an ex partner. We were together for 1 year, with lots of fluidity around parameters. We were platonic friends for a year prior. We both valued our independence and maitaining relationships in our lives. He identifies as RA & solo poly. I'm somewhere on that spectrum with a goal of having 2 lifelong partners - with negotiations.
It ended due to me moving away,and him not having capacity for an ongoing long distance romantic partnership. I quickly realised i was willing to invest more time and resources than he.
So, I'm still moving through resentment and sadness. Overall, I've realised what I've needed to work on, ongoing work in being a better communicator and honoring gut feelings. Truthfully, I knew 6 months in that we weren't compatible long term as I was more clear cut and certain about my goals, and he was more into variety and the freedom to contain his relationships in the areas they existed. Rarely merging.
Anyone been through similar? Open to thoughts etc etc