AITA for choosing not to have a relationship with my mother in law ?
So context for story I am 22 , have been married for 4 years and am expecting my second baby with my husband after our first ended with a miscarriage last year . My mother in law Laura (fake name ) and I have never been close but we are both good with social niceties . When I was seventeen we were planning our wedding. We were planning on taking engagement photos but after laura said she had someone in mind and it would be free , we were thrilled . With little notice the day comes , my now husband was in the military and was driving 3 hours to be present and I had worked the night before, not had time to buy anything to wear and was on my period . I didn’t ask to change the date because they were free but admittedly my mood was not the best . Long story short laura ended up telling a family member I was acting like a bitch , and when we confronted her about this she doubled down . I ended up letting this go , there was other things she did at the time as well but it’s been years and people can change . Cut to last year , my husband and I are living away from home - he’s out of the military and we’re struggling to get on our feet when we find out I’m pregnant . We move home , and end up staying with my mother in law . About a week into me being home , I miscarry . I’m in the hospital with my mom and mother in law , my husband is still packing up our old house and is out of the state . I’m not superstitious but I just had this feeling when I moved back home , I would loose the baby and I was vocal about this to my husband . But I understood for our family this was the best decision. I had a really hard time with it in the hospital , crying , telling my husband I knew this would happen . Laura stepped outside to call my husband and said some not nice things about me , and my husband told her to knock it off . That I had just lossed a baby . A few weeks later , it’s easter and my family is joining us at Laura’s . I had made a cake for my sisters birthday a few days earlier that we didn’t end up using . We told Laura the cake was in the fridge and wouldn’t be being used . Laura brings out the cake at Easter for my step sister in laws gender reveal -without warning and uses it as a gender reveal cake and proceeds to ask me and my husband to guess the gender of the baby . I play along but excuse my self inside as to not ruin the occasion by being upset about my own miscarriage and her using something I made for another woman’s gender reveal . My husband and I make it through the celebration but address it with Laura after everyone leaves . Laura proceeds to tell me that I embarrassed her , that she feels I need therapy not because of the loss of the baby but because my step father killed himself when I was twelve , that I am emotionally unstable , that I have a victim mentality, and essentially have always been out to get her . Meanwhile my husband and I are both crying because we feel disrespected about our loss , considering it’s been less than a month and she gave us no warning about the celebrations . We end up moving out that night and my husband doesn’t speak to her again until she uses her tools as a real estate agent to learn our new address this February . I wanted my husband to have a relationship with his mom for himself and I want that for my baby . But I don’t want one with her , at our last two family gatherings I have not looked in her in the face nor have I spoken to her more than the required response to her questions . AITA ?