u/InjurySilver535

I need some advice from people who have gone or are going through a similar experience.

It is lovely and reassuring to read so many positive and calming abortion stories. This helped me a lot with my first abortion, although I did go through 2 weird months afterwards of feeling lost.

This time though deep down I did not want the abortion and I stupidly rushed the appointment due to my partner’s anxiety over the situation. I then ended up at a private clinic, spending money, and not having a great experience with the doctor I had.. It was just awful. I tried to make myself vomit the first pill (as you have to take it in front of the doc in Spain) when I got home.

I just have a huge sense of regret. I feel extremely bad whenever I think about the topic and I just wish to be pregnant again with my baby… I truly don’t know what to do. I was not expecting this huge feeling of regret. It is eating me alive and all I want now is to be pregnant again.

I think I need advice from someone who has gone through a similar experience not someone who felt relief and happy about theirs… Idk!!

This is just me ranting/sharing my experience, as reading these posts has always helped me to so much. So, if mine helps one person I have done my bit!

I found out I was pregnant 27th of April. I simply took a pregnancy test because my boobs had been extremely sore for about 3 ish weeks and it was unusual. I was very early as I know it was conceived from sex on the 9th of April.

This was a sad experience overall for me, as a year and a half ago I had my first ever abortion and I had told myself it would be my last. I am very pro-choice, but it was a difficult situation for me. And so was this one.

My partner (25) and I (24) have been together for 3 and a half years, but we are not in an ideal situation for us to start a family in and we feel like we’re too young still. We also broke up end of last year, and spend quite a few months of very ups and downs with accepting the break up and mistakes he made along the way… So, although we have officially ben back together for a couple of months now, I am dealing with slight trust issues etc. It is basically not an ideal time.

Now, even while taking all this into consideration… I was very ready to keep this baby. I love my partner and I want to be a mother. I have always said, I personally, do not want to start a family at 30 years old +, and being in this position NOW was very difficult. I did not express my true feelings on the pregnancy to my partner and I was very wishy washy with my real feelings towards him. I think I was scared at the thought of telling him how felt, 1) bc I knew his stance on the situation, 2) bc admitting to myself I wanted to keep the baby was a serious thing.

I scheduled an appointment with a public clinic here in Spain for the 15th of this month. And my partner was very anxious of the waiting between when we found out and this appointment (2 weeks ish). I was doubtful every day and I would express to him how foggy and nervous my mind was. Mistakenly, he basically pushed me into an appointment last Tuesday with a private clinic (400€ btw!!) and due to being so stressed and anxious I accepted it last minute and went straight after work. This was my biggest mistake ever.

Do not, and I repeat, do not go to a termination appointment without having things very clear in your mind, unless you’re going for advice/help. I regret attending this appointment every day now. I waited my turn and as I walked in the doctor was sat down already filling the form and asking me questions from the get go. No hi, no hello no how are you. He then proceeds to tell me to lay down. I lay. He does a VERY fast ultrasound and says “Are you wanting to have an abortion?”, I say “yes” (I regret not saying I need to think) and then he tells me to sit down and take this pill (mife). I could see him waiting and slightly analysing if I had taken/ swallowed it. I know I could have declined but it felt like I HAD to, almost like I was slightly forced to. I didn’t even get a chance to ask for a copy of the ultrasound, which I was lucky to do last time.

I ran home like a lunatic and tried to force myself to puke the pill, but was unsuccessful… I cried and cried and cried so much for my dear little baby. I considered stopping the termination but a lovely doctor from my GP advised that at that point I should just complete it. I completed it last Friday evening. Worst experience ever. A couple hours after taking the 4 miso pills, I experienced the worst cramping pain of my life. I was on the floor cramping, dizzy, nauseous. To the point I took myself to my nearly urgent gp care, as I know my body and pain tolerance. It is a shame I stumbled across another idiotic doctor(thought it would go differently as it was a woman - stupid me), she didn’t take me seriously and said I just needed to relax and calm down. That it’s normal to feel pain and be nervous and I said I couldn’t just relax if I was in so much pain and that I knew my body. She rudely gave me ibuprofen and I left. Thankfully I had some codeine left from last time that I was able to take an hour after and it helped.

I think my message by telling my story is to never rush these situations if you don’t feel ready. As much as I know my partner was trying to be helpful and supportive, his anxiety and nerves made me feel backed into a corner to attend an appointment that was expensive and made this experience much worse for me. I somehow have managed not to think too much about my dear little baby, but I think in a few days reality will hit for me. As much as there are lovely and quick abortion experiences, there’s also a reality of women who aren’t ready for children but do not have a jolly time. I want to share that I too understand🩷

I found out I was pregnant on the 27th of April. I live in Spain so I booked an appointment with a midwife super quickly.

Long story short to not bore anyone off, I had an appointment on the 15th with the public health sector and ended up making an appointment last Tuesday with a private clinic. Going to that appointment was my biggest mistake that I will never forget. The doctor was super cold, rushed it all, didn’t even greet me as I walked in. It just all felt so wrong.

I didn’t even get to ask for a copy of the scan which saddens me a lot. Anyways, I took the first pill at the appointment under his supervision and he advised me to take the next four pills, vaginally, on Sat morning (so I don’t have to take time off work).

I am super regretful and sad of starting this process and do not want to finish it tomorrow…

I did see a doctor at my GP who recommended I finish the process as she said it’s very unlikely that the pregnancy will continue.

Is there anyone who has been in the same situation? What did you do? Did you end the pregnancy or attempt to continue it?

I did get some cramps the next day after taking the pill which is the only indicator that it might have already done its job…

Hello! I think I am looking for some words of wisdom and advice…

A few days ago I (24F) found out I am pregnant. I know for a fact when it was conceived so I know I am very early (and I only had one symptom). My partner (25M) and I are together in a 3+ years relationship, however we have had a rough patch these past few months were we broke up due to long distance etc. However we do love each other and are on good terms etc.

We have both always said we are not ready for children, and I was on the pill for a very long part of those 3 years. Last year January I had an abortion which I chose to have but was very upset about. It took a couple of months for me to feel okay and normal again.

I do want to be a mother and I do love my partner and would be happy to have children with him. He has stated he does not wish to be a father right now, he feels we are too young, don’t live together and are just “working” out things again…

I am scared. I do not wish to have an abortion although I feel and think I should. It’s almost like I know what my choice will be but I don’t want to make it. I want to have this baby and I am extremely sad to be in this position again. I wish I was a few years older.

I do not know exactly what to do or tell myself. I live in Spain so first step was an appointment with a midwife to chat about options. When I told her I was confused but still wanted the appointment with the clinic, it felt wrong. I am super scared as I do want to keep it but my partner is very much against it.

I do not want to damage our relationship or also not take his opinion seriously. However, the more I think about it the more I want to keep the pregnancy. I have even attempted to research how to take the pills “badly” enough so they don’t work (I know, extremely stupid and not okay at all). I don’t want to go against my partner’s wishes either, as he would be the father and responsible too, but I don’t know… It seems like this time around my mind is very against abortion