Urgent help
Hi everyone I honestly don't even know where to start but I really need advice I am a 20-year-old girl currently studying BS Bioinformatics at IIUI, Right now I am in my 3rd semester and mentally I feel completely exhausted and stuck
After my FSc Pre-Medical I originally wanted to pursue medical But because the competition was so high and my marks were not what my father expected, everything became really stressful for me as I am the eldest daughter in my family so there was already a lot of pressure on me Everybody around me kept suggesting different fields and different universities and honestly I had no idea what I actually wanted anymore
I spent around 6 months at home after second year giving entry tests everywhere I gave every test my parents wanted me to give At that point I was already mentally drained and guilty because I felt like I had disappointed everyone by not getting into medical
During that time my father and I had a huge conflict There were constant fights and tension at home, and I genuinely felt like if I stayed at home any longer, I would completely lose myself I know people might say I am overreacting or making things difficult for myself but at that time I was really not okay mentally
Around January 2025 IIUI admissions were still open and it was one of the few universities still taking admissions at that time I randomly came across it and just applied because I desperately wanted to leave the house and start somewhere I gave the entry test and visited the university for the test, but I honestly did not know much about the environment or how things were there
The truth is that I did not even like the university at first I did not want to go there But mentally I was so messed up at that point that I just thought“Whatever, just go somewhere"
When I got selected IIUI asked for the fee submission, but I delayed it because deep down I still did not want to go there. At the same time I was also waiting for NUMS because I had applied there too for Biotechnology which I actually wanted more But their response was taking too long and I thought maybe I was not selected there either
By then, around 3 weeks of classes at IIUI had already passed I had lost hope from everywhere else, so eventually I submitted the IIUI fee which was around 2 lakhs.
And this is the part that still hurts me the most
The same evening, after coming back home from submitting the IIUI fee I checked my email and saw that NUMS had sent me an admission offer for Biotechnology They said I had been selected and had to submit the fee the SAME DAY to secure my seat
I was so happy because I finally thought I could leave IIUI and go somewhere better for me i showed the email to my dad immediately But when we contacted IIUI administration for a refund they refused they said some refund deadline had already passed and basically told us there was nothing they could do
At that time nobody was really guiding me properly I did not have anyone I could lean on I even asked my cousin brother because he had more experience than me and he told my parents that Bioinformatics and Biotechnology are almost the same and that university does not matter much so I should just continue at IIUI since the fee had already been paid.
My parents listened to him and I just went along with it because I felt like I had no other choice
But honestly I never adjusted there
All my life I studied in APS (Army Public School) and lived in a cantt environment My entire environment upbringing and social life were completely different Suddenly shifting into a completely different university environment was a huge shock for me
I know people study there and survive there and I am not trying to insult anyone but personally for me the environment has felt extremely toxic I could not fit in socially For the first two semesters I barely made any friends I constantly felt isolated and uncomfortable there
I know some people will say that university is only for studies and you should just focus on your degree but your environment affects you a lot mentally too And honestly every day there feels mentally draining for me
Now my dad may have noticed something in me or i don't know but he recently told me that if I can maintain my CGPA currently that is 3.50 and not let it drop, then he may allow me to transfer or migrate from IIUI
And honestly, that is all I want right now
I just want to get out of this place before my mental health gets even worse I genuinely feel like if I stay there much longer I will completely lose myself mentally
I have spent nights researching universities migration policies transfer criteria credit transfer systems literally everything Right now I really want to transfer to NUST preferably in Bioinformatics if possible
I know there may be fine migration issues or extra semester problems and honestly I am willing to deal with them I even do freelance work and have started saving money myself so my parents do not have to worry about fines or additional expenses
So I really need honest advice from people who know about this stuff
Is migration from IIUI to NUST possible in Bioinformatics?
Can someone transfer after the 3rd or 4th semester or would I have to start over? Or if i have a strong army reference will it work?
Is a 3.5 CGPA enough?
Are there other good universities in Islamabad/Rawalpindi where migration is possible?
Has anyone here gone through something similar?
Please give me genuine advice I know some of my decisions were emotional and rushed and I blame myself for many things too But right now I just want to figure out a way forward