My friend (18 F) and I (19F) had a fight. Any advice?
My friend and I are both late teens and we are at the end of our first year of college. We talk pretty consistently despite going to different colleges and have been friends for five years now. This past Sunday I was out with my family when I got the news that I had passed the interview for my first job! I was super excited and after my family left I called them excited to share the news. However, when I told them I got a little more than a " oh good job!" Now I admit I am hurt about this, but I don't think it's the root of the issue. Afterwards, we began talking about them packing up to leave their dorm and how they weren't going to study for their last final. I made the offhand remark that they should still review for the final despite them transferring schools. They got quiet and I could tell they were upset at me. So, I changed the subject matter to their sister's wedding which is this coming Saturday. They began to complain about how busy it had been, and I said at least it's almost over and then you won't have to see your future brother-in-law for a while. After this, they began to complain about their brother-in-law's family, to which I said that they won't have to see his family again until the baby shower. They then remarked that they would start a yelling match with their brother-in-law if that happened anytime soon, and not in a joking manner. Now this disturbed me, not the fact that they don't like their brother-in-law. I knew that. But the fact that they would start a fight with their 26-year-old sister's husband over what is a fairly normal life event. I said that they probably shouldn't say that as their sister would not appreciate it, she has already told them to f off politely, and they would run the risk of ruining their relationship with their sister. They got more pissed at me and told me they were tired of me lecturing them, so I hung up! Then a little later I apologized for lecturing, sincerely I promise, and set a boundary of not talking until after my finals and the wedding was over. They bit my head off again and kinda blamed me for not "having their back" lately. Now, I want to make this clear, I have never been the kind of person to hold in my opinion on things. I know this can get kind of annoying, so I don't tend to talk to people past conversational niceties. However, they as my best friend know this about me and I don't feel it's fair to start blowing up at me about it now. So, any advice on how to navigate this?