My partner and I have been seeing a couples counselor to work through a couple humps with depression issues we’ve been having that effect the relationship. It was going well, but I just found out he met with her without telling me and they decided to pursue individual therapy together, all without my consent. I deeply want him to have an individual therapist but since she is our relationship counselor it rubbed me wrong. I also found out she’s been asking him questions like if he sees a future with me but she’s never asked me a question like that and mostly just talked about sex in our individual sessions.
Is this unethical? It definitely introduced some trust issues that didn’t need to be there. I get she wants to help and I want him to have someone who can advocate for him when he struggles to verbalize his needs, but this feels like a betrayal.