Fight with my mom and now she’s ignoring me
I’m 20F and I had a really bad fight with my mom a few days ago and I genuinely don’t know how to process it anymore.
The fight started over something so stupid. She saw dead skin on my hand and told me to remove it. I said I didn’t want to do it at that moment, but she kept forcing me and threatening to beat me if I didn’t. I was already upset and crying, and while I was removing it in the bathroom she stood there watching me. At one point she even picked up a broom because I resisted when she tried grabbing my hand.
In anger I sarcastically said something like “Aap bhi bahut badhiya nahi ho.” I did NOT mean anything about her character or dignity, but she took it in a very offensive way.
Later she came to my room and started saying things like: “Ganda khoon hai tera” “Usi baap ki aulad hai” “Gande khandan ke ho”
And honestly that broke me. I can tolerate anger, shouting, whatever, but hearing your own mother talk about your blood/lineage like that hurts differently.
The thing is, this fight wasn’t really just about dead skin. I think years of frustration came out from my side too.
I’ve always felt very controlled when it comes to grooming and appearance. I have a lot of body/facial hair and it makes me very insecure. People have commented on it in front of my mom before, even called me names jokingly, and she usually laughs it off or says nothing. But at the same time she also doesn’t allow me to groom myself the way I want. Even simple things like eyebrows, dressing up, earrings, etc. become a huge issue sometimes.
So somewhere I started giving up on caring about myself physically because it felt pointless.
What hurts more is that my parents already have a toxic relationship and I genuinely feel like my mom projects a lot of her pain and anger onto me sometimes. I understand she has suffered too, but I’m her daughter, not her emotional punching bag.
After the fight I still tried talking to her twice because I wanted things normal again, but she completely ignored me both times. It’s been days now. She talks normally with everyone else, watches TV, laughs, but acts like I don’t exist. And I know this sounds dramatic but it’s affecting me mentally so badly. I’ve been crying constantly, overthinking everything, and feeling emotionally rejected in a way I can’t explain.
I know I’m not perfect either. Maybe I reacted badly too. But I genuinely want honest opinions: Am I overreacting? Is this normal parenting? How do you deal with silent treatment from a parent when you still love them so much?