Serious help nedded
Hi, I really need advice about something serious. My girlfriend is dealing with a lot right now—she has BPD, struggles with suicidal thoughts, and comes from a very difficult home situation with a mother who is addicted to drugs and a father who drinks heavily. She’s been through a lot of trauma, and sometimes she feels like running away or giving up.
She’s tried breaking up with me because she thinks I deserve someone “better,” but I love her deeply and don’t want to leave her when she’s hurting. I want to support her and be there for her, but I’m scared. I feel like I could either lose her completely or that our relationship could fall apart, and I honestly don’t know what the right thing to do is.
I also feel stuck because I’m not really in a position to fully take her in or be responsible for everything right now. I still live with my mom, and financially I’m not stable enough to just have her move in with me or take on that kind of responsibility. I worry about what could happen if she ran away, left suddenly, or things became more than I could realistically handle. I love her, but I also know love alone doesn’t solve everything, especially when I’m limited by my living situation and finances.
Part of me wonders if breaking up would somehow help her, but another part of me feels like staying and supporting her is the best thing I can do. She loves me too—she’s just scared, traumatized, and struggling.
I honestly don’t know what to do. Should I stay and keep helping her through this while recognizing my limits, or let go if that might somehow be better for both of us?
Edit. Im 20m and 19f