Do I tell my dad he’s not my dad?
So I already posted asking for help with understanding DNA testing because my twin sister and her daughter’s results weren’t what we were expecting. Today we got the final confirmation. Our dad isn’t our biological dad. It’s been a lot of conflicting feelings and we’re still pretty dumbfounded by it.
There’s questions on whether or not we should tell our dad. We’re 35 years old. This has been a lie for over 3 decades. I personally feel like telling him is the right thing to do but maybe it’s not? I’m eventually going to break no contact with my mother to confront her about this- but that’s a story for another time.
We did entertain the theory that maybe my dad knew and chose to raise us anyways, but it’s extremely doubtful. Our mother left when we were very young. I don’t think he would have held on to us to raise alone if he knew we weren’t his.
So please, chime in. I’d love to hear all perspectives about this, but I’m truly curious from men specifically.
Would you want to know you had a biological child or no? Does it even matter to know if a significant amount of time has passed before finding out?