so i, 35f, have pretty severe anxiety and depression and am on medications for them. 2 weeks ago, i went to the urgent care due to multiple days of fluctating heart rate, dizzy spells, and shakiness. at urgen care, they decided it must be my ears and since the hospital was still open for regular business hours, they gave me a referral to the ENT there. The ENT didn't think it was my ears, so he brought me up to the psych people (which is always a fun trip, being escorted to the psych ward), but after talking with them for awhile they were pretty confident everything was anxiety related, and said it was most likely 'anxiety induced dizziness' and it would explain the 3 most concerning symptoms. They told me to try and detach from stressors as much as possible, suggested i put focus times on my phone for the majority of the day, actual suggestion was to turn it off for a day or two, and to just relax. I think he said 'act like its the 90's". i told my bf, 35m, who is living in a different state for work for the past few months (we've been together for 6 years), all what the doctor said and he said 'yea that sounds like a good idea', so i did what they said, i put a focus thingy on my phone and went about my day and actually had a great day, it was nice out, i got some things done around the house, read one of my physical books that i've been sleeping on. good day. and then in the late afternoon i checked my phone, and he had texted me how that "this was just another way for us to talk less" "cool go back to just ignoring me. thanks for setting us back again" "im going to bed extremely angry about you ignoring me" and when i responded to these multiple messages, his contention is that... i have an inconsiderate attitude, he's clearly not important to me, that he's not a toy i get to ignore whenever i want, im condescending, i always have to be right, i disrespect him, my attitude has pushed him away, why couldn't i call and talk, he shouldn't have to beg, this isn't how a girlfriend acts... that was all in one swath of texts.
we haven't been in a very good place in a long time and every argument always comes back to one of these ideas. and note, when he says that i ignore him, whats happening is that if i dont immediately respond to something, then i am ignoring him. doesn't matter if i'm at work, in the shower, cooking dinner, in the hospital, he thinks i'm ignoring him
I was doing what the doctors told me to do, and i told him what they told me to do. i dont understand how it all got turned back on me like i'm the asshole, and at this point on top of everything going on, i'm really upset by the whole thing. and then he acts like nothing happened a few hours later. this is a repeating cycle, and i'm getting so exhausted by it, my anxiety has gotten worse over the past few years, to the point where my heart starts racing when he calls (and not in a cute way, in like a panic way). It's getting to the point where something like this happens maybe once a week.
My question is: is it understandable, at least somewhat, to be upset about how he acted about this most recent issue, or does what he's saying make more sense?