Mother in law charges me to look after her grandchildren.
Uk fiancé here . Me and my partner have been together ten years. Approx .
His mum was fine until about four years ago when he had an affair after I also went with someone else - we was going through it .
Sure she can resent me for that I don't really care but he wasn't innocent either and that's why we put it to the side and decided to move forwards
However the level of pettiness this woman has resorted too from that point on will actually give some of your MIL a run for their pennies .
It started banning me from her home. I wasn't aloud to visit any more because she didn't feel " comfortable " letting me in knowing I'd been with another man and betrayed her son .
Whatever - I didn't kick off I just said that's fine but we will have to see each-other at family events .. and we did and really she didn't act like she had an issue with me in the surface .
But then it started , the little things that were below the surface . She booked a family holiday , obviously me my partner and kids weren't invited - this was because apparently they didn't think we would be able to afford it , a sure way to kick us in the kanooleys if there was ever one .
Then it was the secret family meals they had with the other family members that they would pretend weren't happening because they didn't invite us , which one way or another we would find out about
Then unfortunately my partner got a job placement abroad , we made the decision he would go alone to benefit our family as the cost of living for a family would take away the whole perks of the salary.
My partner spoke to his mum and she assured she would help with our kids whilst I continued my career and business .
I mean she did ... but decided to draft me up a contract for employment as my "nanny" . When I tell you I couldn't even believe my own eyes . £200 pound a day for 5 hours .. and that was " non negotiable " .
I had zero choice as my own family lives in America and I have no friends here in the UK .
Imagine that for six whole months I payed her £600 pounds a week to take care of our kids whilst I worked . It got to a point that my wages were just being drained by her child care costs and I didn't realise that nursery placements for our twins would actually cost less with the funding they have here in the uk .
I stopped the arrangement with her .
She turned sour and didn't contact me for a while , until she invited me to her other daughter in laws bachorlorette party .
I was unsure to go because of the tension I had with her over everything that had been going on . But I went .
Everything was fine and good until I returned home and realised that the pictures they posted from the party I was cropped out on EVERY ONE ... wow honestly at this point I FaceTimed my fiancé crying and just said they have a PERSONAL ISSUE with ME , it can't be anything more than that .
He still tried to reassure me that she was just hard work sometimes and that she was " going through a lot " . I took some time to calm down and invited her to my home to set the air clear . And we did , she assured me she had no issue with me and I had the wrong end of the stick , I was overreacting and that my hormones had probably not settled from after the twins .
Lo and behold two months later when she baby sat my kids for 2 weeks whilst I went to visit my fiancé I came home to my house , destroyed . The damages were in excess of 5,000 uk pounds . The flooring was water damaged from taps being left on , ornaments smashed , furniture broken and medication and beauty products missing.
She left and I blocked her and haven't spoken to her Scince .
I'm still with my fiancé but Iv sworn to him when we get married she will not be attending because if she does I won't be . That's a promise .
Some mothers are in love with their own children and it's vile .
That's my story