u/InsidiousDormouse

This is stressing me out =/

A couple who live in the private house that is next to where my council flat is allowed their dog to go for my dog's face last year. Thankfully my dog was on the lead and under control, so I did not allow her to defend herself (she's a mastiff mix and could easily have killed the dog that attacked her), I just got her away from the situation as fast as possible. Thankfully, by the grace of Anpu (Anubis, I believe in the Egyptian gods, long story lol), she was fine and she wasn't injured. I spoke to a couple of my neighbours who have dogs who had been attacked by the same dog. We decided to make a joint report to the police about the off lead, out of control dog. The police got back to me and said they had been 'advised' to keep the said dog on a lead and muzzle it. However, the police could not enforce this because the dog is not an exempted or banned breed and of course, the couple has done neither of these things, the dog is frequently out of control on the park. The dog is not even a ' bull type' breed either. A few days later, the woman had a right go at me on the park trying to make out it was MY dog was dangerous and that she went for hers. She had NO idea who reported her because the police couldn't tell her. She knows her dog has gone for other dogs, she knows she is 100% in the wrong and she knows she is an irresponsible dog owner. The only way she could have worked out I was involved is because she knows her dog went for my dog's face.

It's been going on ever since with her. Back and forth crap, her hysterically laughing when I tried to talk to her etc. She's mental, I am sure she's got a mental health problem. Last week, my biggest nightmare happened, she passed me in the tight jitty that leads down to the park. I held onto my dog, who was 100% under control, and her aggressive dog lunged straight at me. Not my dog, the aggressive dog didn't acknowledge my dog at all. He lunged at me. I said her name because I found it out, and told her if the dog bit me, he would be getting put down.

A dog that is going for humans and other dogs should NEVER be off the lead and it should be muzzled in public places. The dog also needs to see a vet to rule out a potential physical cause for the aggression, like a brain tumor or canine dementia etc.

I wish it would stop. It's made taking my dog for walks extremely stressful. I wish I could just talk to her like an adult, sort it out, agree to pretend each other doesn't exist and just ignore each other as if we weren't even there. Her husband has done what I asked, I told him 'if you don't like someone, just pretend they don't exist, ignore them', and he has done this. However his wife hasn't, that has continued on and on. I like to talk to these kinds of people, sort it out with words, and come to an agreement. I do diplomacy, not arguments or fights etc.

I've seen her and members of her family walking those dogs and leaving dog poo all over the park right next to the children's play area. It's disgusting.

Sorry for the long rant, but this is causing me so much stress because I never know when I am going to bump into her in the jitty or have to deal with her out of control dog. I told her I would not hesitate to kick her dog if it attacked me or my dog. I absolutely do NOT want to be put in a situation where I have to hurt an animal, but it is my duty to protect my dog.

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u/InsidiousDormouse — 8 days ago

The 'radio wave'

Yesterday I braved going to the Autism Information and Advice drop in in my city which is run by Citizen's Advice (for folks not in the UK, they help people with allsorts of things like finance, benefits, social care etc). I went with no expectations. However, the lady who was running it was on the spectrum herself. When I met her, I immediately felt something I hadn't felt since childhood when I attended and autism specific school. The school sadly failed to meet my educational needs and I left with basically no education. I have spent the past twenty years educating myself. However, I felt that connection with the other kids on the higher end of the spectrum. Yesterday I felt the 'radio wave', the connection. I just cannot explain it.

It's like tuning a radio, finally, I found a channel. It was completely overwhelming, but in a good way. That radio wave is still buzzing inside me.

She is also sending me a load of resources and places that may be able to support me in my adult life. I am really hoping this goes somewhere!. I am really struggling with independent living because it far outweighs my resources to deal with it. It's like living in constant overload. This is why I went to this session. I am SO glad I went!.

Has anyone else every experienced anything like this when meeting someone else on the spectrum?.

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u/InsidiousDormouse — 9 days ago