AITL for not telling my baby daddy I was pregnant and aborting the baby?
Hi everyone, I've been struggling with my decision lately and need some advice. I currently live in a two bedroom basement apartment with my three year old. He was the result of a friends-with-benefits situation where my copper IUD failed. I decided to keep him because I have always wanted a child, I had the space and income for him, and his father and I are on good terms. Since then, he has been the light of my life and we've been getting by. My elderly neighbour recently moved in with us to help me care for him so I could go back to work. I'm currently working towards moving us out of this apartment and into a nice house in a different neighbourhood. I love my job and struggled when I had to take time off to have my son. I still hook up with my baby daddy (using woohoo protection every time ;), as he's good for a nice woohoo but he isn't someone I want to have a long-term relationship with.
A few days ago, I found out I was pregnant AGAIN. Somehow, incredibly, the woohoo protection and my IUD failed. I had just had a super overwhelming day at work, and I don't think it was helping that my son was crying outside the bathroom, so I made the spontaneous decision to get an abortion that night. But, since then I have been overthinking my decision and I fear I made the wrong decision. I don't have the space for another child in my apartment, but I could have moved to a nicer, slightly bigger one and just saved for a while longer to be able to move into a house. I likely would have had to take more time off work, but it wouldn't have mattered in the long run I suppose. There is also the fact I never told my baby daddy I was pregnant. He's a good dad but he doesn't have a permanent living situation and rarely visits his son unless I invite him over to woohoo.
I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I tell my baby daddy what I did he'll be upset and won't want to see his son anymore. But I'm also afraid I made the wrong decision. Can anyone give advice?