u/Intelligent-Help-264

I am only 4 days post TFMR and I feel guilty not only about the TFMR but also feelings that I still want another pregnancy. part of me thinks maybe I wasn’t ready since I got pregnant so fast after my daughter. my husband says he doesn’t want to try again and I get why- this was so traumatic and heartbreaking but for some reason I feel like the spirit of my TFMR baby wants me as his or her mama so will come back to me if I get pregnant again. does that sound crazy? also, how many had healthy pregancies after TFMR? my first boy had a congenital defect but wasn’t that serious which is 1 in 250 and then my daughter didnt have any congenital issues then this baby had a diagnosis 1 in 3000 and I feel like these odds are against me.

hi all. I just Tfmr yesterday. I do have 2 young kids I am totally grateful for but I’m grieving this baby and the fact I was going to have another baby run around with my others. I know I can have kids into my 40s but I’m already 39 and this was such a traumatic pregnancy and I’m scared to even try to get pregnant again in the future. plus I don’t think my husband wants to go Through this again. i am sad ill most likely never get a newborn stage again and I miss this baby so much as it is. I’m just venting.