I’m 27F and he is 28M Guys ranting about how he left me because he didn’t wanted to hurt his parents.
Sorry guys, it’s a long story! I just needed to rant about this part so bad that I’ve had sleepless nights and I feel horrible right now.
It was a 4 year relationship! And last year our parents decided we will get married. During the first meeting, his mother asked whether believed in kundli. And we said no, and everyone including his parents decided not to take this astrology part forward. After 2 meetings everything was decided that yes we were going to marry!
Everything was cool, later during that month, we were supposed to shift our house and we got busy in that duration before Diwali last year. And during that while, his mother went to an astrologer and he said looking at our Kundli’s that somebody will die if they marry and the kundli’s doesn’t match. Even my boyfriend did not know that his mother went to the astrologer and later she contacted many astrologers without his notice. And few days before Diwali, she informed my boyfriend that this marriage cannot continue. They came after Diwali occasion for a meeting. And we (my family) were excited about the fact that we will be rokafied. And during the meeting, they told us everything about this matter and I was shocked to know that my boyfriend didn’t even update me about this matter once. And I directly got to know in that meeting. Later when I asked him, he said my parents told me not to say anything as we didn’t wanted any miscommunication within the family. I slide that later because I thought this situation is first for him too.
He took them to many astrologers but everybody said different negative opinions and they have become adamant about us not being together saying tum dono ki life kharaab hogi. I don’t deny he didn’t do anything for me. But all he keeps saying is I can’t hurt them and I’m trying my level best. Mujhe koi understand nahi kar raha hai. Meri value hi nahi hai Ghar par. They are not listening to me at all. But all I feel, I’ve done enough into my family for him. Consistently got so many astrologers just that his mother understands. Finally, I took him to an astrologer too where he was so positive without me saying and explained the remedies as well. He was superbly sure that nothing bad will happen after your marriage. And this guy didn’t even let his parents meet him because he said everyday we are fighting with each other.
Honestly guys, I have financial crunch at my home, I have been shifted to rented appartment after few debts of my family. It was a horrible time. And I consistently asked him whether his family doesn’t want me, doesn’t like me. I mean I did everything I could and this guy just cries on my face and says tere paas tere parents hai samjne k liye mere paas koi nahi hai. I breaks my heart. I feel helpless and I absolutely can’t sleep well. Why on earth I met this guy. His mother is so adamant that she can’t see anything else beyond this matter. I do not deny he didn’t try but when he says all these things that you go, I can’t hurt my parents etc etc. It hurts me. I love him so much that I feel awful for myself and I feel pity on my situation. My parents have been super supportive and my father even met him few days back to sort this matter because I said no to all the proposals in the last 8 months waiting for him. And this is making my parents worried about me because they want me to get settled too. He said my father, uncle I have hope because one astrologer said positive and he will take his parents to them and he will personally meet him. But he said I won’t give you false hopes and commitment too. And it’s been few days and he didn’t even meet that astrologer and he constantly keeps on saying that he is having a fight at his home because of all this. I feel awful about the situation! I don’t know what to do. Sorry about taking your time and thank you for reading my heart here!