So 27 weeks along and FTM, my fiancé is going to be out of the province for work for about 2 months and he’s due to get back exactly a week before baby’s due date. Theres a good chance that he might miss the birth and we’ve spoken in length about it, but my mother has been insisting she’s going to be in the room since finding out and the closer I get to having my baby the less comfortable I am with having her there. She’s the type of mom to bring up her experience birthing and raising three children already and having a know it all attitude, let alone how I’ve already planned out my birth plan and she’s been trying to convince me that it’s not going to get followed and that if I don’t have support in the room everything will go wrong and it’s been sending me into a bit of a spiral. If my fiancé is able to make the birth then he’s going to be the only person I allow in the room, but if not I’m trying to figure out if I can say no one else is allowed, having my mother there feels like something I’m supposed to do but it doesn’t feel like something I want but I really don’t have anyone else that could be there.
Edit: just to clarify I’ve been looking for a doula or support person within my price range which is rather small I will admit and my birth plan is just a vaginal birth with an epidural and to pretty much be left alone with baby unless absolutely medically necessary, from my understanding every bit of testing and can be done while baby is in my room, I don’t think in the grand scheme of things it’s complicated