Same exact sex ever time
M/21 F/19
I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. I always make sure she finishes and I genuinely prioritize her pleasure, but lately I’ve been getting sexually bored and frustrated.
She’s very curvy and has a really big butt that I absolutely adore, but even though I’m pretty well endowed (around 8 inches), she says she can’t really feel much in most of the positions I enjoy. Because of that, 90% of the time we end up doing missionary, which is honestly my least favorite position, instead of positions like backshots that I enjoy more.
We’re basically limited to only two positions overall, and the one I personally prefer is usually the one we do the least. She also refuses to get on top because she says she can’t focus while riding, which makes things feel even more limited.
Our foreplay is usually just some kissing, me sucking her breasts, and giving her oral, but I rarely get the same effort or energy in return.
We’re both in university, so we hook up pretty often probably 3–4 times a week on average and she often wants to go twice every time too. I feel ungrateful even saying any of this because I know a lot of guys would love that situation, but honestly it just hasn’t been hitting for me lately.
I’ve caught myself mentally checking out during sex sometimes because everything feels repetitive and monotonous. I don’t even necessarily need anything crazy I just want more variety, more mutual effort, and to feel like we’re both trying to make it exciting for each other.
Are there any positions, adjustments, or things we could try that might work better for someone with her body type while also making sex feel less routine for both of us?