Has anyone here actually found their ideal guy?
I’m 21, and sometimes I feel kind of stuck on something I should’ve moved on from a long time ago. My first real crush was a guy named Mateo. Nothing ever truly happened between us, and maybe that’s exactly why it stayed with me for so long. He was one of those people who changes the way you feel about love without ever really being yours. Human brains are ridiculous like that. They turn unfinished stories into lifelong emotional artifacts. 🙃
Ever since then, I’ve wanted to find someone I can genuinely feel happy and at peace with. Not some perfect movie romance. Just someone who makes me stop feeling like I’m constantly waiting for something to finally begin.
The embarrassing part is that lately I’ve felt even more delusional. About a year ago I went to the U.S. for vacation, and ever since then I’ve had recurring dreams about some random American guy. I’m Mexican, so even I have to admit it sounds absurd. My subconscious apparently decided to create a fictional foreign man to haunt me while I’m trying to study and function like a normal person. Incredible use of mental resources there. 😭
But honestly, I keep wondering if it actually happens for people. Like, does that moment really come where you meet someone and things finally click? Because I genuinely feel like I’m starting to lose hope a little.
Has anyone here ever felt this close to giving up… and still ended up finding their person?”