u/Intelligent_Party929

From a long time I wanna talk about this subject but I didn’t find where, but now here a I’m.

I find pretty stupid. If I don’t feel that you trust me and I’m good enough I’m not gonna even stay with you. I shouldn’t even have the thought that you’re cheating and if I did it’s either a discussion for the boundaries what I like and what I don’t.

But asking for the password? Really feels insecure AF, I imagine some dude entering his GF’s accounts just to search for other males because he doesn’t feel that he’s enough.

LOYALTY SHOULD BASED ON TRUST AND EACH OTHER IS SECURE ENOUGH OF HIMSELF. NOT BY SHARING PASSWORDS.

I suggest you read the part one if you haven't, you can find it here.

Again, the posts are more for the men, as I'm a man. May an intelligent feminine lady create similar posts for the women? One that doesn't have BSs and manipulations similar to the IG gurus such as act as the prize and don't respond quickly...

I want you all to understand something that it is that deep:

In this life we all are born to reproduce, the strongest natural dopamine triggers humans have when we are mating. When you ask a women what do you want she'll say "I want a MAN" or "I want YOU to be YOU". But the problem is, who is a MAN and who is YOU? She doesn't want a man who always pleases her! Also, she doesn't a man who don't have a life! Or a one that is always staying beside her doing nothing. Now who are YOU? and who is a MAN? YOU are the one who found in nature, the one that is willing to kill to live, the one that had built a safe home and willing to die to protect it. THAT'S YOUR DUTY AS A MAN. Unfortunately, our current food and current consumptions (Social media and movies...) has fucked out genes and hormones. That one you can say: he is MAN, and he is HIM (YOU). WE ARE ALL WHEN WE HEAR THE RIGHT THING ABOUT MASCULINITY WE DO HAVE INTERNAL BELIEVE THAT IT IS US AND THIS IS WHAT I SHOULD DO AS A MAN, most of the time is just we just don't know it, or we don't have the guidance for it and simply we didn't get it from our fathers. You won't be a MAN until you understand this.

• A women broke up with you: Basically she is saying I don't want your SEEDS. YOU HAVE FAILED AS A MAN. Now what you are gonna do? Cry? Beg her? Post a sad story? What do you think the MEN above would do? Simple, he leave and go build himself again! Why some men only go hard do workout and build themselves financially and everything only after a broke up? because they have realized that they failed as a man so they needed to build themselves again. Ofc the women now might text them back and regret her decision but he should have done it for HER in the first place. (he wasn't gonna do it without that rejection)
• A women rejected you: You accept it and move on. You do never try to force the outcomes. You do not want who doesn't want you.
• Why do women prefer a man with a nice car and home or fit...? Gold digger? Nah, that's just human nature and what attract her naturally. She just saw that he is more capable and being able to provide. Then why my women didn't cheat on me with him? She is basically seeing that you have traits that it's hard to find in that other person. But if she had to choose between [YOU] vs [YOU & MONEY] vs [YOU & MONEY & FIT] vs [YOU & MONEY & FIT & TREAT HER BAD] she will choose [YOU & MONEY & FIT]. PERIOD. She might even choose [YOU] over [YOU & MONEY & FIT & TREAT HER BAD]. (I have just shortened this into 3 traits for simplicity)
• Gifts: Forget about that red little flower on the first date. These things are only in movies as I said, even if she said she wants it, you DO NOT OFFER IT. Not because you hate or don't care (well, you shouldn't care that much in the first place). BUT simply because SHE DIDN'T EARN that yet. They like gifts, and you as a man you love being the provider but you do it only when she invests in you. You will feel it by yourself when that girl deserved a reward you feel she was so good to me I want to reward her with something.
• Compliments: You do give it only as a reward if she did something FOR YOU. Let's say she wears a dress you liked. You give a compliment like "The dress is hot on your body". Here she love it and will take care more for her body and wear it more often FOR YOU. She loves to please you but only when it is a real compliment, not as a NEED.
• I want you but I don't need you: Never ask her "why you don't reply?", or "why you left me?" if she does, doing that will make it only worse. If you did a mistake one apology that states what you realize what you've done wrong and that's enough. If she closes all the ways for you to access her (blocked you everywhere), you do nothing. You'd never lower your status for anyone. You do not beg, you do not cry, you never chase, you do not visit their home or where they work. You do go work on yourself and that's all. Btw that's self-humiliation not respect; she might wanted to come back after days but once you do those stuff, I promise you she will confirm that she made the right decision.

The posts are more for the MATURE people, the ones that are ready for marriage and looking for a healthy masculine and feminine balance; not for the teenage/uni love that you see each other every day. Please don't let me write long replies in comments then I find you're still in high-school.

Remember, just because two people are married doesn't mean it's a successful and it's a masculine & feminine one.

Let men be men and women be women. Good luck ladies and gents. ✌🏻

I'm Male, so I'm gonna write them from a male POV. Ladies, feel free to confirm or challenge any of this.

Here's a list of advices that I give to men:

• Ladies wanna be approached: That whole “women don’t want to be approached” thing is mostly an excuse used by guys who are inexperienced or afraid. Women do want to be approached, if it’s respectful, light and natural. Not “pss” or “hey, give me your number.” Just make a simple observation about her or the environment and start a normal conversation. Build rapport and see where it goes.
• Don't take rejection personally: She doesn't know you. She's rejecting the interaction, not you. Maybe she’s not in the mood, maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe your delivery was off (un-secure or not confident). It happens. If she rejects you respectfully, you can end it with a compliment like: “Ma3lich, mazalti zina. Bonne journée.”
• Take the lead: Don’t ask “what do you want to do?” That’s your job. Plan the date, time, and place; don't let the women do anything, she just need to come and let her mind rest. They are mature and capable, but here it's your job to plan and lead not them.
• Take care of yourself: MONEY, grooming, fix your teeth, get a good haircut, learn how to dress (Not TN & Lacoste ofc), hit the gym or any sports, lower body-fat, build muscles. All of those affects how people treat you everywhere, not just in dating.
• Get a DAMN life: Work alone isn’t enough. Have friends, hobbies. Travel, sports, hiking, whatever. Just don’t make her the center of your life. That’s unattractive, and she will feel that you have nothing going on.
• Focus on yourself (Same as above): Don't be much available, she will feel that you have nothing doing in your life. If she texted you in the middle of the day and you're busy. I'm not gonna say ignore her, just tell her that you are busy and you will call her when you are free. Don't be anxious of losing her. (Make some effort for her but don't make her your life)
• Real date > Calls > Texting: (that's my personal take) Texting all day is a waste of time. Calls are better, but still limited. Real-life interaction (dates) is where connection happens. Stop hiding behind your phone.
• Act & filter fast: Don't text for weeks, if the vibe is good, escalate to date within a day or two. If it's not working don't be afraid of ghosting a girl (they do it all the time btw) just end the connection fast no need to keep it. If you're no longer interested/not matched but the girl is respectful shows effort, interest and was on time... a respectful closure message is the best.
• Don't try to impress them: If she is not coming just for you, she is not worth the company. Just invite a girl where you can afford, the right one won't ask for much, she even will stop you when she sees that. That also doesn't mean you don't put in effort.
• Be straightforward: Don't pretend to be her friend first. That's how you end up in friend zone or as best-friend. You want to be a her romantic partner not her therapist or her emotional support buddy. If you offer it they will take it, why not! And overtime they know you want something bigger than friendship and they will act dump and keep you in the FZ because they don't feel attracted to you and they don't want to lose you as you are their comfort buddy.
• ACTION DATES > COFFEE & RESTURANT DATES: Coffee is boring, play with the girl, have fun; hiking, bowling, horses, carting, anything that have action and you challenge each other which is more entertaining than any fine dining date.
• Play > Logic: As men we tend to be more logical (job, planning, fixing...). But with women that doesn't work just have conversations that have feeling, joke, tease, play, imagination. Most of the things that doesn't make sense and don't have goals.
• Don't entertain low interest: Just because she is responding doesn't mean she's interested. Skip who give you breadcrumbing, late replies or a "maybe"...
• If she likes you, she will make it easy for you; If she doesn't she will make bridges and make you cross them. (Some will waste your time for validation)
• It doesn't need to be perfect: Effort (even if some time wrong) beats perfection. Always.

What I disagree with is “Just be yourself”:
That’s lazy advice. Yes, don’t be fake but also don’t stay the same. Everything in life is a skill. Here, you need to learn how to flirt, tease, communicate, and lead, just like training in the gym. Reps what matter all you need is just to show there.

Those aren’t games or manipulative tactics just advice based on common mistakes men make in dating (myself included). Some I learned the hard way, some come from books, some are common sense, and some aren’t.