r/AlgeriaRelationships

So there is this guy who asked for my number , at first i denied but then after persuading me and he was fun and all so i gave it to him . We talked on the phone ( not everyday), and even met once since he work in another state so it's kinda difficult to meet .

The issue to me is whenever we talk on the phone he brings up how he wants to have physical touch like hugging kissing no more than this , and ofc i refuse telling him that we just met so obviously we won't do such thing . Also whenever he talks about meeting the next , it's always him saying that he wants to go somewhere calm and all , but he alwyas says that we will go somewhere i want and i pick and even when i told him about the kissing and hugging being unacceptable at least now he was fine with it and said ofc he won't do something I'm not consent of .

Once we were talking about traveling and told him I'd love to travel and said Tunisia since it close , he suggested to go together spend the night or the weekend and said if i could find an excuse to tell my family then we would go . Not gonna lie here i felt uncomfortable and that made me ask him if he was an openminded person , he said he was so it was understandable for him to behave this way .

Now the thing is I've seen some girls have physical touch and they are intimate with their boyfriends even at the beginning ( after a month or so ) and they are still together or got engaged/ married but i always think doesn't the guy ever bring this up and think that she is a bad girl , and honestly this guy is nice in all other aspects except this thing considering I'm conservative and believe that all that happens only after marriage , so that made me afraid to seem complicated . My fear here isn't just about this guy but in general like would i ever find a guy who will still want a serious relationship even after you deny him the physical touch ? And even if you accept since u like him , would he think low of u or think that you've done this before with someone else or he was just testing u if u accept ?

Nowadays is it important to have such during relationship and is it necessary to keep the relationship especially if one partner did want so ?

Did any relationship with such intimacy end up with healthy marriage ?

I know it's long but wanted to explain the situation and i would love to hear both the opinions of conservative and especially the openminded people about it ?

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I’m talking to a 42 yo man(wahrani ), he’s single, muscled, protective, and I’m not trying to steal someone’s husband or anything. I just genuinely like this type of relationship dynamic.

I don’t know why, but soft healthy relationships sometimes feel “boring” to me, and I’m more attracted to intense/toxic dynamics. Is that weird or do other girls feel the same?

Hello

I’ve noticed that more and more algerians were childfree by choice and wondered your reasons

I’m a childfree muslim woman myself and also wondered if there were only women or also men with this mindset !

Thanks :)

>!Now that I know she has a boyfriend, I can go back to collecting rocks by the river!<

>!For legal reasons: This is a joke, I hope you found it funny!<

No details needed, it’s just that i really need to get over this person, i lost my best friend, and my lover and I don’t know how to deal with it.

I never thought I’d end up caring this much about someone I met online.

There’s this girl I started talking to a while ago, and somehow what started as a random conversation slowly turned into a daily ritual for both of us. We talk every single day now. Not in a forced way either, it just naturally became part of our lives.

The strange thing is how easily we relate to each other. It feels like we understand the same emotions, the same loneliness, the same humor, the same way of seeing things. Conversations with her don’t feel “performed”. I don’t feel pressure to act cooler, smarter, or more interesting than I am. I can genuinely just exist around her.

And yes, we flirt. A lot.

The only thing that would probably make some people pause is the age gap. She’s older than me by about three years.

But honestly? Neither of us really minds it.

What surprises me is how little it affects the connection itself. When we talk, it doesn’t feel like there’s some huge difference between us. If anything, the emotional connection feels more important than the numbers attached to our ages.

I know online connections can sound unserious to some people, but this genuinely feels real to me. There’s something beautiful about finding someone out there in the world who slowly becomes part of your everyday routine without you even realizing it.

Like suddenly your day feels incomplete if you haven’t talked to them yet.

I think what I like most is that our conversations feel uniquely “ours”. We have our own rhythm now, our own style of talking, our own recurring jokes and little habits. It’s comforting in a way I didn’t expect.

I guess I’m posting this because I’m curious how other people view age gaps like this, especially when the girl is older. Three years doesn’t feel like much to me emotionally, but I know some people see it differently.

At the same time, part of me thinks that when two people genuinely connect, the details people obsess over from the outside start mattering less and less.

I don’t know where this will go yet.

But I do know that meeting her made my days softer somehow.

Has anyone else experienced something like this, especially when the girl was older? Sometimes I wonder if I’m overthinking the age gap, because three years genuinely doesn’t feel important when the connection itself feels this natural.

What do you think is it true or just a myth:? hypersexual people don't exist ?

Each time I tried to get to know a guy I realize that they are following over 300+ models on Instagram(only cause they're attractive) and honestly it's something I don't want to deal with during a relationship. Cause a man following a lot of women just cause they're pretty comes to me as a lustfull guy and I start thinking that maybe even irl his eyes keeps going all directions. So I end up not trusting him.

Since I don't do these things I would rather be with someone that doesn't.

But did this became unrealistic nowadays?

Also do men in love stop finding other girls attractive once they have someone or am I delulu in wanting my man to have eyes for me only?

Bonjour à toutes,

Je me marie dans environ 1 mois et demi et je vis quelque chose qui me pèse un peu. Depuis que ma belle-famille est venue demander ma main, c'est le silence total — aucun appel à mes parents, aucun signe de vie, rien. Zéro implication dans le mariage.

Je ne demande pas que ma belle-mère participe aux préparatifs, juste un minimum d'intérêt et de chaleur, surtout que dans notre culture la belle-fille doit être valorisée. Mes parents eux sont hyper impliqués, du coup le contraste se fait vraiment sentir.

Ma mère m'a même dit "si ça se trouve ta belle-mère voulait une autre fille pour son fils" et depuis ça me travaille...

Mon fiancé lui est super attentionné et communicatif avec moi, mais j'ai remarqué qu'avec sa propre famille c'est très froid, peu de communication. Son frère a même coupé tout contact avec eux, donc il y a visiblement des antécédents.

Est-ce que certaines d'entre vous ont vécu ça ? Comment vous avez géré ? J'ai besoin d'être rassurée 💙

I've never thought that i'll hit this level of depression one day i don't know what happened i feel depressed and empty even though i occupy my time by work sport hangouts with friends but its the same ,

That feeling never fade it grows day by day im just writing this to empty my heart im not spreading negativity or seeking attention i just wanna express how i feel to strangers instead of keeping it inside , its just really tough to endure this.

What if I get along with the person and we are compatible in so many aspects, and I find myself drawn to them for some reason but I don't find them attractive, like I dont get that cute aggression in my mind when I see them, that feeling that defines attraction for me.

Have u ever been in a long distance relationship male/female pov are welcomed.. How did it end and how long it took till u met in real life

Have u ever questioned wth are u doing falling for someone u never even saw in real life never interacted with them or knew how they behave in real life 😭 like of course u know a lot about them but how much of it is actually them and how much of it is just ur imagination filling the gaps

Sometimes i sit there thinking maybe i fell for the version of them i created in my head more than the real person. Because online u only see what they show u.. u dont see how they act when they’re angry, tired, awkward, around other people, stressed, quiet irl etc

And yet somehow they become part of ur daily life so deeply that it feels real even without physically meeting them u can't even fall asleep without thier voice u can't have a perfect day till u hear from them It’s such a weird feeling like being emotionally attached to someone who technically still feels half imaginary 😭

I sometimes wonder if the relationship is even real or if it only feels real to me because im emotionally attached now

Like what if the other person isnt as serious as i am.. what if im over here imagining a future and they are just enjoying the attention or the comfort of having someone there

Thats the scary part about long distance sometimes. U can care about someone so deeply while still never fully knowing how genuine their feelings are behind the screen. No body language, no real life moments, no seeing how they naturally act with u outside of texts and calls

Hey guys. Just looking for outside perspective on a weird situation.

About a week ago, I met a girl here and we hit it off well that she asked to move over to telegram. But the second we got there she insisted on creating a "Secret Chat" because she doesn't trust anyone and prefers talking there. I thought it was a bit intense for someone I just met but I decided to play along and see how things go.

​Fast forward a week, and it became completely exhausting. Like she refused to tell me anything personal. I barely knew anything about her. Not her name, where she lives, or even what her job was (she would talk about random office drama but refused to name her actual field or profession). Literally the only piece of data I had was her age.

​Meanwhile, it felt totally one sided because I was being open and conversational. It felt less like a mutual connection and more like I was talking to a ghost or AI. I value sincerity and clarity so the constant secrecy just felt mentally exhausting and immature. So I just went ahead and cut this whole thing short and she immediately panicked and said she would stop keeping secrets, but I told her that wouldn't change things because it will only feel forced and unnatural. Now I’m sitting here with a bit of a guilt second guessing my actions and wondering if I was too harsh.

I never met someone like this before. So has any of you dealt with something similar ?

My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me yesterday, the relationship was toxic to say the least and we both just couldnt let go and kept trying to fix it, but i was the one holding on more and harder, lately we were finally on great terms yesterday we were so in love on a video call but 2h later he went and cheated on me and ghosted me for 2 days when i found out while cheating on me without giving me answers

His excuse was that he couldnt forgive me for what happened last which was a problem caused by hhim but i took responsibility woth him but he ended up making it entirely my fault also blamed it on how things were off lately and we werent meant to be together when he was discussing marriage few days ago

I am so attached to that man and can only feel what he tells me to feel and now i feel like i could have prevented it if i acted better

I am feeling terrible

This is not the first time he cheated and the first time was for the same reason I need more objective opinions on this that may help me wake up because i am so stuck being the blamed one and i still do it to myself

All i want is to find a manly and good looking man (body and face) who has never had a prior relationship (i dont want a zani) and who is financially stable and mentally stable...

Dating

So I'm 24f who never dated before because for me dating is such irritating waste of time thing nd m glad i didn't bcz at least i ain't heart broken but how the hell m supposed to marry if i haven't dated anyone? especially with nowadays men

So do u think it's important step or is it just shaytan steps trying to lead u to the worst

This is based on many vids I’ve seen on YT, the comments, and people’s experiences from both men and women, what I concluded is that women prefer someone who’s less attractive than them and that has to do with ego, her confidence, jealousy, and they prefer someone who they can control, someone that puts them on a pedestal, someone that worships them.

On the other hand, they get an ego boost when they reject or ghost the handsome, good looking man who’s in shape.

If you think all of this is bs you have to think about it, why do the majority of women prefer someone with a dad bod?

For women looks and attractiveness aren’t as important as they are for a man, especially an attractive one, what matters mostly to many is financial stability, your status, your income, and how much you have in your bank account.