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I know this is an odd one, but this post is for the men.

If you have sisters, build a relationship with them.

Talk to them. Hang out with them. Invite them to your room to play games or watch videos. Go out together. Get some ice cream. Travel together if you can. Just spend time with them.

I rarely see teenagers or young men hanging out with their sisters. It's usually either a group of guys hanging around together or an entire family spending time together. The brother-sister relationship often gets completely neglected.

And honestly, taking your sister out for a walk and some ice cream is probably more enjoyable than going out with your boys for the 941,562nd time just to walk around, smoke, complain about the state of the country, and gossip about girls.

The benefits for both of you are endless.

You'll feel less lonely, you'll socialize more, and you'll simply feel better. If you're religious and want to avoid haram relationships, having a healthy relationship with your sisters can also help relieve some of the loneliness that comes from not interacting with women.

It will also change the way you see women in general. A lot of us, especially in Algeria, grow up with certain traditional beliefs about women. Having a close relationship with your sisters can help break some of those deeply rooted ideas and make you treat women with more understanding and respect.

I also genuinely believe that society as a whole would become much better if men started building stronger relationships with their sisters instead of keeping as much distance from them as possible.

If we started seeing more brothers and sisters spending time together outside, I think we'd see less harassment, more social activity, and a healthier relationship between men and women in general. I honestly think overall happiness and life satisfaction would go up.

It might feel awkward at first. You might feel shy, or you might think you need to protect your "aura" or act serious around them.

Don't.

One day you'll realize you didn't spend enough time with them. As you get older, it becomes harder. Then you get married, they get married, everyone gets busy, and those opportunities become much rarer.

(Plz dont drop dumb comments before reading and understanding the post)
i’m a 23F , and i’d genuinely like to hear both mature men’s and women’s perspectives on this.

i’ve struggled with porn addiction and masturbation. i’ve been actively working on it because i don’t want it controlling my life or becoming part of my future relationship. i managed to go about 3-5 months without relapsing, then eventually slipped again. i’m not looking for excuses or sympathy i’m just being honest about where i am.

i also have a high libido, but i know those are two different things. having a high sex drive doesn’t automatically mean someone has an addiction, and having urges doesn’t remove personal responsibility.
and no, i don’t think marriage is a cure for it. i don’t want a partner to “fix” me, and i don’t expect marriage to magically make the problem disappear. i want to work on myself regardless of whether i’m single or in a relationship.

what i’m actually wondering about is honesty.
if you were seriously dating a woman and she told you that she had struggled with porn addiction and masturbation in the past, would it change how you saw her?

would you want to know before marriage, even if she was actively working on it and it wasn’t interfering with the relationship? or would you consider something this personal part of her private history?

i’m not asking whether porn addiction is healthy or unhealthy. i already know why i’m trying to leave it behind. i’m asking about how a mature partner would perceive the person, not just the behavior.

i’d especially like to hear from people who have been in serious, long-term relationships, because i’m asking about how this would actually affect a relationship, not just what people think about it in theory.
if someone you loved trusted you enough to tell you this about her past, would it affect your respect, attraction, or trust toward her? and would you want to know?

I've been searching for months for friendships and I can't find it's rarer than diamond this days .. and I know it's a relationship group but there's no friendship group in Algeria so here I am ... Just wanna share reels and memes at 2am and have some casual conversations .. No romantic interests, no relationships, just sincere friendship, random conversations and memes .... If anyone interested please let me know 🙏

(Girls upvote if you want the tests men should pass (they're way moooore than 5)

My friend, never commit to a woman before she passes these 5 essential tests:

1. Respect Under Anger

Observe her when she’s furious, not when she’s sweet. Does she threaten you or try to humiliate you? Or does she maintain her composure? Anger reveals the truth.

2. The Peace Test

Ask yourself honestly: does she make your life easier or heavier? Does she bring focus or stress? A healthy relationship should feel like peace, not a second job

3. Unsupervised Loyalty

How does she behave when you’re not around? Is she consistently respectful and disciplined, or is she out seeking attention? True loyalty doesn’t need to be babysat.

4. The Hard Times Test

Face a setback whether it’s a loss of time, money, or comfort and watch her reaction. Is she supportive, or does she pull away, distant and annoyed? Anyone can love you at your peak, but few stay to walk through the desert with you.

5. Cooperation

Is she capable of following your lead without turning every little thing into an endless debate? I’m not talking about control or fear; I’m talking about cooperation.

If she fails even a single test, walk away. Good partners are rare, so choose wisely or you'll pay the price forever.

Test should a man pass!

There’s something deeply attractive about unperformed authenticity
Someone who doesn’t need to prove that they’re intelligent, kind, mature, interesting, or above anyone else
Soft without being weak, open without being naive. Someone who can understand why someone behaves badly without excusing it. Someone who can see that everyone carries their own wounds without letting that become an excuse for disrespect. Someone who has empathy, but they also have boundaries

I'm a 28yo male and I never been in a relationship but it seems that every guy I know is in a relation ship they make it look so easy finding girls , what's the secret or is it just because I'm not socially active , I don't know

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I’m a 167 cm guy, and I’ve been bullied about my height by both men and women for as long as I can remember.

I still remember the first time I tried dating. I was around 20–21, in university, and that was when I first got hit by the harsh reality that, because of my height, I probably wasn’t going to have much of a chance with girls.

The guys around me noticed that too, and once they realized it was something that hurt me, they started bullying me about it as well.

I talked to my mom about it. She told me that it didn’t matter and that the most important thing was becoming the person I dreamed of becoming.

I believed her.

So I kept going. I survived that toxic environment, avoided dealing with girls or guys unless they were friends I genuinely trusted, and eventually graduated.

I got a government job, went abroad for several training programs and internships, came back to Algeria, and thankfully God gave me the opportunity to start my own private business with my two cousins. It’s basically a cute little family business 😂, although we still have a lot of work to do to develop it.

Now I’m 29.

For a while, I thought things had changed. I thought maybe I could finally start meeting girls like everyone else.

But then I got hit by the exact same issue I had when I was 20.

And honestly, I’m tired.

I’ve come to accept that maybe a relationship just isn’t something that’s going to happen for me. So I’m not looking for one anymore.

I’ve basically removed marriage from my head.

Part of me just doesn’t want to experience that rejection again. I’ve been hurt enough.

And even if a girl did accept me, I’d constantly worry about becoming a source of embarrassment for her around her family or friends.

I don’t want to be an embarrassment to anyone.

So I’ll just keep moving forward with my life, working, building my business, and doing my best to become the person my mom always told me to become.

Maybe that’s enough.

I just want some peace . Update: people here are so nice you guys gonna make me cry 😭😭, thank you everyone hope only the best things to happen in your life everyone thank you 🙏

قبل حوالي عام من الان اضطررنا للهرب من الجزائر بإتجاه قطر بسبب رفض المجتمع اللعين لأننا نتزوجو بسبب فارق العمر

صرا لي صرا وغلطنا وحاولنا نعالجو الخطأ بخطأ ولكن في الاخير قدرنا نحلوها والحمد لله فرات

ماحبيتش نعاود القصة كاملة

المهم باركولنا والله يوفقكم

Slm I have a friend that was soooo attached to me like if I don’t talk to her she would start crying and posting sad stories without really telling me and also she started talking to my sister just to know if I am talking to someone else and even when I told her that I need a break from talking to people she just said “ yes you don’t have to talk to them you have me “ and she lately started sending me things like “ I adore you “ or” I can’t live without you “ “ and I would die if something happened between us “ though I told her since I met her that I hate when someone get attached to me
I couldn’t handle it anymore so I cut her off with a really long message but I felt guilty 🥲

This is the message:

Imane, I'm sorry, but I don't feel like talking anymore because, frankly, I'm exhausted from the pressure and the internship. I found myself unable to take on any more weight, and as you know, I'm not the type to play games with people. I'm sorry, but you demand my total attention in our relationship, and quite frankly, I am not ready for this burden. I don't want to repeat the same stories as last year when I was under a huge amount of psychological pressure—partly because I was carrying someone else's worries. Honestly, you used to treat my words as if they were divine revelation and say that I'm your role model and so on, even though I always told you not to rely on me like that, that you and I are not the same, and whenever you failed at something, I ended up blaming myself. I've reached a point where my peace of mind is more important, and honestly, if I'm not doing well, I'll end up taking it out on you and being unfair to you.
Therefore, it's better if we keep our relationship light and not like before—meaning, don't expect me to always be available. I know my words will hurt you, but that's life: sometimes a blow hurts you, but it teaches you.

So, me (22F) have had a guy online friend ( 22M )for few years ? We basically knew each other from the end of middle school and now we finished uni ( never met btw ). I realised recently that i always liked him, I had denial phases for sure, i was young and it was scary but now I'm really sure I like him because the idea of him leaving me for an actual girlfriend made me cry myself to sleep at 4am. I can barely hold myself together when he hangs out with friends and there are girls with them. We're both getting older and i don't know what to do, he never really showed an interest in me and never gave me any signal so I don't think he likes me. continuing this online friendship will hurt but so is walking away because he is important to me. What should I do 😖😞 leave or stay hoping it'll pass ?

I don't believe in modern feminism. I think it pushes women away from marriage and motherhood, sells them false freedom, and ultimately makes them unhappy and confused. I've seen it happen to women I know…

I want a wife who wants a family, not a career first mindset that treats traditional roles like oppression… So my question is, how do you screen for this early on without wasting anyone's time?

Would love to hear from men who've figured this out and women who left feminism behind…

Prove me wrong lol

I seriously don’t understand what this means. Am I just being dumb and easily manipulated, or what? (We are not in a relationship)

How rich the man needs to be for you to ignore all other stuff? I know some of just need emotionally intelligent and all but it's just a pragmatic question so just put an honest number + I don't mean that the man is mentally sick or abusive, I mean like maybe he's not that mature or he's too short or fat extra.

A dovorced women in her 30's has a future in Algeria ? Or she should simply accept her sad reality that her life is ruined ?

As a man what do you think ?

Relationships here in Algeria can be complicated, especially when it comes to finding someone you actually want to build a life with.
For me, 5 things matter:
Intelligence – being able to have real conversations and think for herself.
Beauty – some level of attraction, but beauty is different from one man to another.
Respect – for herself, her partner, and others.
Emotional maturity – knowing how to communicate instead of creating unnecessary drama.
Good values – honesty, loyalty, kindness, and knowing what she wants.
Obviously everyone is different, but these are probably the basics for me.
What would you add?

Not necessarily obvious red flags like cheating or abuse, but the smaller things that would eventually make you lose respect or feelings for someone
For me, I’d never tolerate inconsistency or feeling controlled need someone who can give me both reassurance and space.

12 years ago she sent me an invitation on facebook, we were both 18 and we had BAC but different wilayas, we got to know each other online and were friends we had a lot in common, we talked literally and everyday, we barely got bac and 5 months in we decide we want to be together and meet irl, she was obese when she knew me so she set her goal to meet me and by then she lost 20kgs and now she is in her best body shape, this is in our first year in the university (different wilayas still). We kept seeing each other twice a year we meet and hangout i worked so hard and until i got my first job and immediately i proposed to her family and we got engaged, it felt so good, then it was fine for us to meet weekly and just one year later i moved to another country for another job and we decide to get married and we did and we had the best night of our lives and not just this but our lives kept going better and better with time, we got a beautiful child (6 yo now) and feel like we made our dreams come true, now we are just trying to make great memories.

Ofcourse had some ups and downs along the way but we made it!

Financial side of things, my first job used to get 5 mils a month, when i engaged mahr was 10 mils (she didnt care what they say, she wanted us to be together), i didnt do wedding to minimize costs, i had no house or car but i rented a studio with furniture but saved as much as i can and now we are 30 yo we have 2 houses, 1 car and a lot saved up to buy another house and a car (thanks to her support and being a great loving wife)

The goal of this post is to bring hope to those who are seeking a serious relationship. Ask me/us anything!

I’m 22, still figuring out my path, and working on bettering myself. Sometimes I wonder why I shouldn't just find someone to build a life and evolve with. Whenever I look around online or on Reddit, it feels like everyone expects a finished product someone completely stable who has everything figured out. It better to wait or maybe trying something out isn’t that bad ?

Just a little while ago, I had a discussion with my sister. I was probably at fault because I made noise while she was sleeping. She insisted she was sick or something and felt exhausted. Afterwards, I went to the kitchen and asked her calmly, but her reaction She was nervous, which made me angry as well. I tried to ignore her shouting and talking, but it was no use, and I ended up overturning the table she was eating at, and we start beats eachother This in turn caused her to have a nervous breakdown and scream, which worsened the situation, leading to the intervention of my mother and aunts, who were not even home. I feel immense guilt, especially because of those words she directed at me; they hurt more than anything.

I think I'm a really bad person to behave