Ok so for context I run a small business and almost 2 weeks ago on a Sunday I was wrapping up my table. It was already getting late but the flux of people came and he was literally the last person. He came with excitement purely for the products I had out so it was absolutely innocent. We had such a good and human interaction, both exited to chat yet have to go home too.
Anyways because it was a share business account he just kept it very brief and said it was so nice to meet you and really enjoyed the interaction. I said the same and since then it’s been texting everyday and having fairly good conversation
Here is the crux of the problem:
He not someone I would’ve swiped on an app but after the interaction I found him cute and secretly did hope he would actually msg. Yay he did!
But in knowing him now since our first interaction, most of the msgs are later in the day and night time they just take a turn. I know he is trying to gauge my comfort level and not trying to objectifying me, but to me when he goes too far with a flirty comment and side tracks to something more sexual I get bummed out. Only because it’s not where I want to be at this point. I’ve told him I’d like to have fun light conversation to get to know him as a person. And although we both said there is a vibe and attraction it’s like he always comes back to this level of sexual flirty that I can’t get past. We talked about boundaries and he is huge on consent and comfort but when I’m trying to reel him in to has a casual conversation he just doesn’t get it. He has said he direct but I seriously would have to do that pretty much every day and that’s a total buzz kill. And I can’t be that direct, read the room a bit especially after I’ve articulated it before.
One day when I had a regular conversation and he told me some story from his past, it was the best thing. He found the conversation engaging and cute. That and the initial conversation have been the best ones. The rest are good but too intimate too soon.
So far he hasn’t asked for my number, made a plan to meet up or anything. And talking at this level of intimacy is killing things for me. The confusion is that he was such a fun guy to talk to in person and engaging we totally were in the same page. But on text he starts off funny and playful but then going too far. Like this is post date 4/5 type of conversation. I like what he stands for in his work, his voice is attractive and he is a serious dork.
I know I’m ranting. I was just so excited to meet a human the old fashioned way but I’m not sure where this is going at all. I don’t want yo get my hopes up high but it already feels like a bit of an emotional roller coaster and that’s not how it should be 10 days into it.