TL;DR; I got monkeybranched. How do I learn from this situation?
My now ex (29F) recently found excuses to get rid of me (26M). She found a better man. I always kept our communication open and honest. We were together for 6 months.
She didn't work and always told me she'd not wait for me while I was working. So she would spend time with random guys online. Everytime I'd confront her about energy shifts she would become very defensive and turn the narrative against me to the point she would stonewall me and punish me.
Sometimes she would admit her wrongdoing only to continue to do the same afterwards and suppress her emotions.
She would often compare me vs fresh guy. I was always activated. She would say the other guy was nonchalant and wouldn't ask stuff.
She has downgraded our relationship to the point we don't have a label, don't share any personal Information but keeps me around (for sex, unscheduled company) while not wanting to do anything because she Is not in the mood. She is controlling and doesn't feel any guilt.
This has been very traumatic to process because now others are even advicing her against me.
I would like to hear your opinion, kind or harsh. I feel betrayed. I fear her. She is very self aware. I scheduled a therapy session for her but I doubt she will take it. I am very worried about this behaviour.
How common is this for you women and what can I learn from this experience?