AITAH for reporting one of my colleagues to my manager.
Hello, so basically I work for a small company with about 15-20 people involved. I started with them whilst I was 17 as part of my college course and I am currently 19 and work there full-time. My colleague ‘Sue’ in question turned 58 in March.
I get along really well with everyone and have really enjoyed working there up until about a month ago.
One of my colleagues ‘sue’ is going through a really messy divorce with her husband and has made this public to everyone for almost a year at this point (it’s literally the first thing she’ll tell people who have never met her before).
I always feel sorry for her because she has no family and lives alone so I’ve always listened and sort of been there for her when she gets sad about it. A month ago she randomly asked me if I could do her a favour (me thinking it would be work related) I asked what it was. She asked me if I could come to her house on the upcoming Saturday and ‘deal’ with her ex-husband as he has to collect some things and she doesn’t want to see him. I explained I wasn’t comfortable doing this and if she didn’t want to see him she should leave the items on the porch area for him to collect.
2 weeks went by and I thought nothing of it, anyways someone in my office turned 30 so we all had cakes made by ‘sue’ and had a good time. When leaving at the end of the day ‘Sue’ (who travels to work by bus and leaves earlier than me normally) asked me if I could drop her off at her house as I drive, I said yes as she lives on the main road I drive on home so I thought nothing of it and it’d help her get her cake trays and plates home without her having to carry them.
When I pull up on her drive a man in a car pulls up across the street and comes up to us. He asks why she was ‘late’ and asks if I’m Ben (which is me) and I’m a bit confused. He says who he is and that I was supposed to bring ‘Sue’ 20 minutes earlier and if I’m her toy boy (I’m immediately uncomfortable at this point). Sue then asks me to come inside and get some boxes out of her basement for her husband and to stand In-between them so she doesn’t have to see him. I say I have to go before setting off and leaving them 2 on the drive.
(I’m small, fat and spotty so not sure if she wanted me to intimidate him or something)
I come into work the next day and she tells me I’m selfish and what I did was wrong, leaving her close to crying and alone with that man. I said I wasn’t comfortable originally when she asked and she deceived me as she obviously knew he was coming at that time. She tells me that she had to carry all the boxes on her own and she was disappointed in me.
At this point I’m mad, so I reported it to my manager and she had a talk with ‘Sue’ about what she did and how it made me uncomfortable etc.
Sue told everyone in my office (not sure if she changed parts of the story or something) but now everyone in my office is being really hostile towards me, telling me I let them down by being this way to Sue. I mentioned this to my manager but she says it’ll blow over.
AITA?